Indlela balahle uthando: iseluleko ngokwengqondo. Yelaphani Ngothando

Naphezu kwazo zonke lezo charm imizwa yothando, eziningi guys namantombazane, futhi amadoda nabesifazane unesithakazelo kanjani ukuqeda uthando. Izizathu zalokhu kungaba eziningi: yokuntuleka reciprocity, yokungabi nesikhathi esanele, ukungalingani ngokomzwelo, nokunye. Ngenhlanhla, odokotela bengqondo ukwazi amathuluzi asiza kanjani ukubhekana nalesi simo.

Ngokungafani nothando uthando

Kude akubona bonke bakwazi ukunquma umngcele phakathi mkhuba edlulayo futhi umuzwa sina. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngisho nososayensi nezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo, abenza sina wahlanganyela esifundweni sendaba, ayikwazanga ukufika khona esiphelweni ezivamile. Noma kunjalo, kungenzeka ukuhlonza eziningi izici ukucacisa umahluko phakathi uthando uthando.

Ingabe ngidinga ukuqeda uthando?

Ngaphambi wokuqonda indlela ukuqeda uthando, kudingeka uqonde ukuthi noma cha ukukwenza. Ngebhadi-ke, akuve emangalisayo akuyona ukuze kusizakale indoda njalo. Fight injena kulezi zimo ezilandelayo:

• uma into simthande akusho bangasabeli imizwa yakho;
• Uma uthando inomphumela omubi empilweni yakho engqondweni nasemzimbeni;
• Uma eliqhutshwa ngesikhwele sokuhlonipha sokugembula;
• Uma uhlangabezana okunamathiselwe ukwenama kumuntu;
• uma umuzwa romantic ukugxambukela izifundo noma career yakho.

Ngeshwa, akuyona yonke intombazane othandweni noma osemusha ungakwazi ukubhekana kangcono nale nkinga. Kunalokho, bayoba ngazo zonke izindlela ukunqabela ukhona. Lokho abangane nomndeni ungase uphawule ngeziphambeko ngesikhathi.

Izindlela uthando ekwelapheni

Uma ufuna ikhambi uthando, zama ukusizakala iseluleko bengqondo. Ngokwesibonelo, izindlela ezilandelayo yizona ethandwa kakhulu:

• yesondlo Zokuzivikela kuyokusiza ugweme isimo engadingeki. Uma ucabanga ukuthi manje akusona isikhathi sokuba nothando, zama ukulwa nabo bonke zako: musa ukufunda amanoveli, musa ukubukela ewuchungechunge izinyembezi, musa ulalele umculo sad, futhi okubaluleke - umkhawulo ukuxhumana nabobulili obuhlukile.
• Incazelo enengqondo kusho ukuthi udinga ukubheka isimo kusukela ngaphandle. Zama ahlaziye kahle zonke izinzuzo nezingozi isimo sakho.
• Ngokuhambisana indlela Lope de Vega, kunconywa ukuthatha isitokwe into simthande yakhe. Kungenzeka ukuthi izimfanelo ezimbi kuye kuyoba kunalelo omuhle.
• Extrapolation indlela kuzokuvumela ukubona isikhathi esizayo. Cabanga uyosho ubuhlobo bakho ngeviki, ngenyanga, ngonyaka. Uma ungayiboni ezintweni ezinhle esikhathini esizayo, ngokushesha balahle uthando.
• Ukwenzeka imicabango emashalofini, ugcine indlela efanele ekuphileni. Kumele ube imisebenzi, yemfanelo nokuzilibazisa. Kungenzeka ukuthi engqondweni ayisekho Ngeke ibe khona imicabango romantic.
• Talk Straight nomngane, isihlobo noma isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo - kuyinto ikhambi kangcono uthando. Umniningwane ukutshela indaba yakho, cishe ngokwabo sebefike esiphethweni ukuthi kukhona umuzwa ngawe umonakalo.

Yena weluleka ngokuthi Freud?

Freud sasho baduma ngenxa bayihlaba kakhulu inkolelo yakhe ngokugqamile ukuthi yezenzo zabo bonke abantu baqhutshwa isazela kuphela ngokobulili. Nokho, yingenxa nalesi simo, abaningi ungathathi izincomo yayo sina. Kodwa nokho kubalulekile ukulalela iseluleko sakhe sendlela ukuqeda uthando.

Freud wayegxila emqondweni elithile, njengoba Sublimation. Uthando inika amandla umuntu. Uma ngabe le muzwa ngenxa yezizathu ezithile akuyona efiselekayo ngawe, zama siguqulwa olunye uhlobo. Qondisa le energy, isibonelo, kwezobuciko, ezemidlalo, imfundo kanye nezinye izinhlaka zikahulumeni. Kungenzeka ukuthi ungakwazi uyifinyelele imiphumela amazing.

Umuthi best - iguquka

Njengoba ayaziwa ngayo ukuba abhekane nobuhlungu esimweni esithile kwengqondo, udinga ukushintsha yizimo zangaphandle. Ngakho uthando angakwazi ukuqeda imizwa esilawulayo nalobo izinyathelo ezilandelayo:

• olukhulu ushintsho yesithombe (kwekhanda, ikhabethe nokunye);
• thola izinto zokuzilibazisa entsha (noma ungaya emuva wokuzilibazisa ukuthi wathatha ingane);
• nengangibajwayele okusha ezithakazelisayo (mhlawumbe benethemba ukuthandana);
• ushintsho kwenkundla (uma abakwazi ukuhamba, zama ukuhlola edolobheni yabo beyofuna kwemizila emisha kanye nezindawo sokuhamba);
• izinguquko ekuphileni kwansuku zonke (isibonelo, kungenzeka ukwenza ezihambayo ifenisha, noma ukufunda indlela ukupheka izitsha ezintsha).

Ngaphandle kosizo abathandekayo ungalilahli

Uma ufuna izindlela ukuqeda uthando, ngokusekelwa umndeni nabangane. Iqiniso lokuthi inhliziyo ehlelwa kunzima ukusingatha wedwa. Ngezinye izikhathi inkinga sibi kangangokuba kuphela ngosizo ikhambi ezizungezile yenziwe yaba khona. Yingakho kufanele kungabi namahloni okucela usizo.

Inketho engcono - ingxoxo ngobuqotho. Nge umngane, isihlobo, uzakwabo emsebenzini - akunandaba. Into esemqoka - ngokungagwegwesi niyikhulume zonke okuhlangenwe nakho kwawo. Uzowathola umangale, kodwa ngokushesha iba lula. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kungenzeka ukuthi umlingani wakho ngaphambilini nesimo esifanayo. Kungenzeka ukuthi ekupheleni ingxoxo, uzoba sihleka ndawonye inkinga, okuyinto namanje kwamahora ambalwa edlule kwakubonakala zingangentaba.

ukuqashelwa

Indlela ukuqeda uthando esilawulayo? Ngezinye izikhathi kudingeka yokwelapha ukushaqeka. Uma lover yakho akakabi uyazi imizwa yakho, kubayini ungamtjeli nabo ngokuqondile? Yiqiniso, akulula, kodwa ngokuqiniseka kuyofika empilweni yakho. Izimo akuzona kakhulu:

• yena (noma yena) uyobala imizwa yakho ngokuqinisekile akhonze njengephayona ukudumala okukhulu, kodwa kuyokusiza ukugqashula;
• ukuze kube kuhle ukuthi into yakho uthando, njengoba wenza, bazizwa uthando, kodwa abe madolo-nzima alivume (lapho kuzodingeka ithuba ukwakha ubuhlobo obuqinile benethemba ukuqhubeka).

okutholakele

Kanjani ukuqeda isimo uthando? Uma uthi nhlá lo mbuzo kungase kubonakale silly kanye izinto kalula, ngoba wonke umuntu oqhubeka nakho romantic. Noma kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba acabangele izici ezingokwengqondo ngamunye ngamunye. Ngezinye izikhathi uthando is hhayi nje iphazamise esikoleni nasemsebenzini, kodwa nakho kungaholela ezinkingeni kakhulu ngokomqondo ngisho imizamo yokuzibulala, okuyinto kunoma yiliphi icala akufanele bavunyelwe. Yingakho Psychology yesimanje uyazinaka eduze enjalo le nkinga.