Isikhathi sesikhashana. Yeka ukuthi kunzima kanjani!

Ngalolo suku, kulindeleke ukuthi kuzalwe ingane, ucabanga ukuthi uzokhula kanjani, yini eyayiyilindele empilweni elandelayo, ecabanga ukuthi ayilungele ukwenza konke okusemandleni futhi engenakwenzeka kuye. Ingane yazalwa, ikhulela, futhi manje umntwana usho ukuthi unombono wakhe wokuthi akadingi iseluleko, futhi ngezinye izikhathi abazali abakwazi ukuqonda ukuthi kwenzekani nokuthi bangasiza kanjani inzalo. Kodwa eqinisweni, sekuyisikhathi ukuthi ingane ayiseyona "idonsa", kodwa hhayi "i-butterfly". Lesi yisikhathi sokuguquka.

Yebo, isikhathi sihamba ngokushesha. Ingane iqala ukuba ngumuntu omdala, futhi endleleni eya kulo mpilo kufanele afunde lokho engakakulungeli okwamanje, kodwa usadingeka ukuthi amukele izimo zomdala zomdlalo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kunzima kanjani, abazali kufanele babe ngabasizi babo umsizi omkhulu kanye nokweseka kulo mzuzu onzima.

Lapho izingane zingena esikhathini sokuguquka, aziguquki ngokomzimba kuphela, kukhona ushintsho lokuqaphela nokuqonda kwezwe elizungezile. Umzimba ukhula, inqubo yokukhulelwa kwenzeka , izinguquko ze-psyche. Ngenxa yokuthi zonke izinguquko zenzeka ngokushesha, isimiso sezinzwa sithinteka ngokweqile, ingane iyathukuthela, futhi ivame ngisho nokufutheka. Phakathi nesikhathi sesikhathi esiphezulu kukhona inqubo esheshayo yokhiqiza amahomoni athile njengesibambiso sezo zonke izinguquko zomzimba.

Isikhathi sokuguquka kubafana iminyaka emibili noma emibili siqala kamuva kunamantombazane, sihlala eminyakeni emine kuya emihlanu futhi siyasebenza kakhulu. Kusukela eminyakeni engu-12-13, umehluko phakathi kwabo ubonakala. Isikhathi sokuguquka emantombazaneni siza ngemva kweminyaka emibili kunabesilisa, sithola ngaphezulu ngokuthula futhi siphelile ngokushesha.

Kakade ekuqaleni kwenkathi yokuguquguquka, intsha iqala ukuveza izici zobuningi ezivela kwezocansi zabo. Nakuba kungekho mingcele ecacile emkhatsini weminyaka yabafana namantombazane, isikhathi esivela eminyakeni eyi-10 kuya kwengu-17, izazi zengqondo kanye nodokotela babiza ukuguquka kwesikhathi, okulungiselelwe ukwanda noma ukwehla esikhathini. Isikhathi sokuguquka singahlukaniswa ngezigaba ezintathu.

Isigaba sokuqala (ukukhula kwentsha) yisikhathi lapho umzimba, njenge-psyche, ulungiselela izinguquko ezizayo. Isigaba sesibili (pubertal) yisikhathi esiphezulu ngokwalo. Isikhathi sesithathu (ekukhuleni) sishicilela emuva, lapho ukwakhiwa komzimba nokwengqondo kugcwaliswa. Lapho zonke izinqubo ziphela, futhi isikhathi sesikhathi esiphezulu siphelile, umsebenzi wezocansi ubonakala futhi intshisekelo kumuntu ohlukile wobulili obuhlukile.

Ngaphezu kokushintsha kwangaphandle, ukuziphatha nokushintsha komlingiswa. Ingane iba yinto engathinti, inesihluku, i-hypochondriac kanye neqembu, ivame ukuphikisana nganoma yini. Ukuqhuma kwama-hormonal emzimbeni wesishukela kubangelwa ukungazinzi ngokomzwelo, nezinkinga zengqondo zingathinta isimo somzimba.

Ngesikhathi lapho ingane ikhula khona, akulula ukuba aqondiswe yiqiniso elishintshayo, umsebenzi oyinhloko wabazali ukuhlala khona futhi usize inzalo isinde kuzo zonke izinkinga ngokulahlekelwa okungenani komntwana ngokwakhe kanye nomndeni wonke.