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6 amasu lokukholisa kusukela kumasevisi ekhethekile uzokwazi charm yimuphi umuntu

Uke uzwe yini kukhulunywa ngokuzamazama amasu ithonya lokukholisa? Lezi zindlela masterfully ephethwe FBI ejenti ekhethekile, ukukhuluma nabantu. Nawe ungafunda lezi amaqhinga uhlakaniphile, Nokho, okuyinto, azisebenzi ngaphandle charm siqu. Uprofesa Psychology Dzhek Shafer esetshenziswa nazo izikhathi ezimbalwa lapho esebenza njenge-ejenti eyimfihlo. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba aye ukumuncwa 6 izindlela charm, khumbula eyodwa yiqiniso elisobala: e inkhulumomphendvulwano, kufanele uqiniseke ukuthi umlingani wakho abafana naye.

ungaphoqwanga muntu ukusenza amaphutha

Lokhu Iqhinga ngokwengqondo UProfesa Schafer osebenza njalo uma kuziwa ku izilaleli ukuba freshmen. Wenza sengathi ukuthi ukhohlwe iqiniso elisobala, imigomo wayephambanisa (yobudala, uyazi), noma ngephutha ecacisiwe. Abafundi ngokulangazela wabanjwa wonke amazwi ale umeluleki wakhe, uthole ithuba ukuze aveze amaphutha akhe. Uprofesa wezokusebenza kwengqondo wazitshaya manqikanqika nethimba lakhe lapho wenza izinguquko futhi njalo sibonga kube yikwembulwa ukunakekelwa.

Le nqubo kukusiza ukuba "ukubulala" yezinyoni ezintathu ngetshe elilodwa. Uvumela omunye umuntu ukuthi bayasethemba. Ninikela umuntu ithuba bazokhululwa. Uyobonisa ukuthi ngamunye wethu ilungelo lokwenza amaphutha. Ngakho, akazange esabe ukubonisa enhle yabo, uyokwazi ukuzuza abantu.

Iyahambelana ingxoxo emhlabeni interlocutor

Umhlangano nomngane wakhe wakudala, asikwazi ukulinda ukukhuluma ngempilo yakhe futhi baqhosha abakufezile. Cishe into efanayo kwenzeka lokukhulumisana nabantu ongabazi. Inkinga nge iningi lethu liwukuthi sinesidingo kakhulu kancane nesithakazelo ezindabeni futhi nezidingo zabantu ezisebusweni inkhulumomphendvulwano. Asikwazi umphumela ngokwethu yezinkinga wesibopho ulalele ngaphandle sijule essence. Lo mkhuba zobugovu akasoze avumele ukuba ujabulise omunye umuntu.

Kunalokho, bazama ukubonisa isithakazelo esiqotho ezintweni enye inhlangano. Ngokusho Dale Carnegie, ngamunye wethu ithuba lokwenza abangane mass kwezinyanga ezimbili nje. Kuyinto kudingekile kuphela ukukhombisa nesithakazelo esiqotho izimo zabo. Nokho, uma sizokwenza kuphela ukukhuluma ngabo, sisuke bengazamukeliswanga atholwe inani elifanayo abangane, ngisho iminyaka emibili. Nweba zemibuzo yakho mayelana umndeni kanye nomsebenzi zabanye abantu. Yiba nesithakazelo impumelelo yabo, sibonise ukuthi umbono wabo kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe.

A ukuncoma ovela wesithathu

Le nqubo ithonya nokukholisa, ungenza ngisho kunconywa. Kodwa uma ukunconywa evamile ezindebeni zakho ingafundwa futhi kuthathwe ngokuthi ukuthopha thinly lethu lifihlakele, le izincomo ezinkampanini zangaphandle has a amandla omlingo ngempela. Le ndlela ngeke ibakhathaze umngane wakho futhi ukugcwalisa ezihlathini zakhe jabulile onsomi. Ukuze ukuletha uhlelo isinyathelo, awudingi ukuba silungise wesithathu. Vele uxoxela abangani bakho ezivamile namanje ukukhumbula lezo amakhekhe ongenakuqhathaniswa nge onion, okuyinto engumngane wakho regaled nozakwethu behlonipha lwakhe lokuzalwa. Nokho, amehlo akho engqondo akugcini kule ndaba.

uzwela

Abantu bayajabula ukwazi ukuthi amazwi abo akuwona zishiywe. Ukuze abonise interlocutor ukuqonda nozwela, kancane ukubheka amehlo akhe, futhi nodding uvumelana. Move ingxoxo ezimbili ngendlela emgwaqweni. Noma kunjalo, akufanele faux pas, uma kuziwa inkinga. Kunalokho amemeze "Kubi! Yini lonakele! "Thola umusho abaqotho ngaphezulu.

Veza ukuthi ozakwabo zakho kuye kwadingeka usuku olubi, futhi wazwakalisa ithemba lokuthi maduze zonke amafomu afanele. Bheka amazwi akhuthazayo futhi ephikelela ukuthi noma iyiphi inkinga imane ingeyesikhashana kuphela. Ngoba nje omunye umuntu ngeke baqonde ukuthi nobunzima bakhe bajabule kuwe, ukuthi ukulungele ngempela ukubonisa uzwela. Ithiphu: Ungafani upholi futhi akusho kuphindaphindeke nozakwethu izwi ncamashi. Kulesi ukuziphatha, akukho zemvelo.

Isicelo somusa

Ngo Psychology, umphumela uBenjamin Franklin, osebenzela ngisho esimweni lezihambi eyaziwa. Wayekanye ngokuzithandela nizenzele umusa uma ngomusa ukubabuza ngayo. Ephendula isicelo sakho, lesi sihambi imele emehlweni abo futhi uzizwe ukuthi libaluleke kanjani. Ngakho-ke, uma ufuna ukwenza umuntu umxhwele ke ukuyeka umqondo wokwenza ukuthi umuntu isenzo esithile somusa. Ngakho-ke ngeke ukugcizelela ubuthakathaka bakhe. Vele ungahlukumezi ukwethenjwa abanye, futhi musa sicele umusa nsuku zonke. It maduze ngizithola.

"Sam incoma - akukho udumo"

Le nqubo ibizwa eduze zithandelana iphuzu lapho uncoma yingcweti yizinkampani zangaphandle. Aerobatics art charm kubhekwa ukuba nginconywe esashiwo yisikhulumi ... yena. Prakthiza leli su kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka, umuzwa esihle okwamanje engxoxweni lapho kungenzeka ukugcizelela engilakhele isithunzi sobukhulu uzakwabo yakho. Futhi khona-ke uyoba akukho abangakwenza ngaphandle kokuhlala Ngiyavumelana kanye nawe. Wena ungacabanga ukuthi manje uzobe okwengeziwe eyodwa sizana ngaphezulu.

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