Amathiphu ewusizo: kanjani ukukhohlwa abathandekayo babo?

Ukuphila kwethu akuqinisekile kakhulu, ungakwazi aphonse ukuba izulu injabulo, futhi kungaba okwalapha lokunyathela ngaphandle niyeke. Lapho behlangana nomuntu ophilayo ngaphansi kophahla efanayo, Ukuqedwa e indoda benganakwa, ungalokothi thina abangavumi ngisho nokuthi embonweni wokuthi izinto zingashintsha, ukuthi indoda bomdabu izohamba ezimpilweni zethu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sasiyini isizathu ngokuhlukana, kuba buhlungu kunoma yiziphi izinketho. Singabonisa kanjani ukukhohlwa ngomuntu esimthandayo, uma ungafuni ukuthi lokhu ngandlela-thile?
Yiqiniso, kuba njalo kulula ukusho kunokwenza, lapho inhliziyo eyikho e bube manikiniki, futhi yonke imimoya nge ubuhlungu obunjeya. Noma yimuphi owayedlula bangakunikeza iseluleko sendlela ukukhumbula nabathandekayo babo, kodwa akekho kubo uzakunika unqobe lo mzuzu nzima.

Ake sibheke zonke ezicashile lokhu kunzima, kodwa namanje kuyisinyathelo esibalulekile ebheke empilweni entsha bajabule. Ngakho, indlela ukukhohlwa abathandekayo babo? Zama unake into ethokozisayo. Mhlawumbe uhlobo oluthile wokuzilibazisa kuzokusiza ukubaleka imicabango edabukisayo. Noma yimuphi uhlobo ngenalithi kusiza ukushintshela sengqondo ehlukene, futhi umphumela uyoba sijabulise nawe isikhathi eside. Uma ufunde - qinisa cwaningo, bazama ukuphoqa ngokwakho ukukwenza futhi likhanye phezu isizinda ontanga yabo. Zama ukuzinika nezinjabulo kancane nsuku zonke, uzivumele khona empilweni yakho.

Kusekhona ukukhetha indlela ukukhohlwa nabathandekayo babo. Zama ukususa phambi kwakhe konke lihlotshaniswa izinkumbulo zalokho isikhathi. Ungahlanganyeli ekuziphatheni nokuzibhaxabula. Zama ukugwema izindawo lapho ngedwa. Susa yonke imilayezo efonini futhi ikhasi ukuxhumana nomphakathi ukuthi awathandi ukubheka emuva futhi ahlupheke. Izame kanye naphakade enqabela ngokwabo ukucabanga ngisho mayelana, ukuzama ukuthola imbangela a non-akukho ukushayelwa noma umhlangano.

Yiqiniso, zikhona nezinye izindlela umlingo, kanjani ukukhohlwa zakho ozithandayo abantu. Ungakwazi ukucela ukusizwa ogogo nomkhulu-oyisangoma ukusiza uzungu kwaso ngokuyisimangaliso. Kungani ngokuyisimangaliso? Ngoba uma wena sezindela yabo, ubona eziningi konke lokhu, okuyinto ningagcini nsukuzonke (utshani, inala kwezithombe nokukhulekelwa iphunga lempepho). Zonke lezi zinto kancane reconfigures ubuchopho bethu ngendlela ehlukile, okuyinto enomthelela okusheshayo "alulame".

Kulabo musa ikakhulukazi ukwethemba emikhubeni enjalo ukushaywa ngokuqinisekile kufaneleka wezengqondo ongakusiza, kusetjenziswa imihlobohlobo ukuqeqeshwa ngokomoya umkhuba, ukuphuma neNkabazwe.

Nor kufanele ususe kusukela uhlu lokukhethwa kukho umkhankaso esontweni. Buza abangcwele kukunike amandla kulolu vivinyo. Ngezinye izikhathi le ndlela kusiza lula kakhulu ukuba banqobe bonke ubunzima of sokuvalelisa nge eziyizintandokazi zakho nabantu ngakhe ukuzethemba ku lucky inkanyezi yakhe.

Kungenzeka yini ukuba umuntu akhohlwe umuntu omthandayo? Yiqiniso ungakwazi, kodwa udinga uzilungiselele yokuthi ngeke kwenzeke ngokuphazima kweso, futhi akulula njengoba kuyoba ezifiselekayo. Udinga imali eyanele isikhathi nokuzikhandla donsa ngokujulile futhi siqale impilo entsha.