Intukuthelo - Iyini? Kunalokho kuyingozi futhi kanjani ukulwa naso?

Mhlawumbe hhayi emhlabeni indoda ongalokothi ekuphileni kwakhe kwakungeke ulinyazwe ubani. Noma kunjalo, lokhu muzwa ajwayelekile kubo bonke: ke buqeda kusuka ngaphakathi, akusho bacabange ngendlela ehluzekile, bakwazi ukwenza izinqumo ezivuthiwe. ososayensi Modern baye bazibonakalisa nemiphumela emibi yokucasukela emzimbeni womuntu futhi umonakalo enamandla kwenziwa engqondweni yakhe. Ngamanye amazwi, ukucasuka - ukunyakaza kancane esikhaleni ukuthi ine njalo ukugwinya umuntu kuzoba. Iqiniso ukuthi kuyinto eyinqaba umuzwa ukukhathazeka, ingozi ngokwakho balahle, futhi lesi sihloko bazomtshela yini.

Baphi izimpande

Uma sibheka isimo lokhu mkhuba ongaqondakali esibangelwa yileso elandelayo umbono ezimbi. Indoda ithatha bekhubeka abanye lapho bebhekene intukuthelo futhi ukuluma. Kubonakala kuye ukuthi isinyathelo ngokungafanele. Ngesikhathi inhliziyo yokucasukela likulowo nokuziqhenya alimele. Lokho, umuntu ephathwa kabi, ngokungazi uzibeka ngenhla abanye futhi ufuna ukulawula isimo. Ufisa ukuba imvelo akuyona nje umcabango nombono wakhe, futhi balalela. Kudingeka bazi ukuba ulwazi, ukulawula ukuziphatha abathandekayo.

yokucasukela Amagama bangahlala ekujuleni enganakile futhi zilimaza umuntu ngokuphindaphindiwe, okubangela ezibuhlungu egqamile. Kunengqondo ukuthi sekudlule isikhathi, lowo okonile eduze lapho, futhi abantu basaqhubeka ukuhlupheka, ukuhlupheka ngenxa ambalwa imishwana aphonswe kanye edlulayo. Okungenangqondo? Khona-ke kungani ngezinye izikhathi wenza kanjalo uphile, ngazi bona lokho kuyinto ukuqeda yokucasukela kunzima kangakanani?

nethonya elilimaza

Labo sone kakhulu, elingafunwa ukuziphatha wacasula - yokuphila, ngokuvamile likhonjwa ukwephulwa eziphikelelayo okuqonda ezanele engokoqobo. Bayakwazi ukubona amazwi umakhelwane ncazelo yesibili, okwakuqabukela ekuqaleni etshaliwe interlocutor. Just like laba bantu elinde sonke isikhathi ngoba iqhinga ezingcolile, agwaze emhlane. Awakholelwa kulokho abanye bathande ngempela futhi ukhathazeke inhlalakahle yabo. Ngokuvamile abanayo abangane ngenxa izinsolo bakhe bemvelo ukuthi empeleni kubavikela ukuthola injabulo.

Isizathu sokuba yokucasukela - netwetwe yokuzingabaza, okuyinto bungathuthukiswa nge yobudala, bese bedlulela. Yilokho akha lokucasula. Isithombe isigcawu oholele impendulo ezingemnandi ngokomzwelo, angeke sivumele umuntu iminyaka, nabelane kuye ukwazi ukwehluleka. isikhathi esibalulekile ukuqeda yokuthonywa imizwelo engakhi.

izingane ubuhlungu

Sonke kusukela ebuntwaneni. Bese kuba khona nje kwenzeka: ukuxabana phakathi ontanga, ngokungaqondi ku sebatali, umhawu maqondana umfowabo noma udadewabo omncane. Intukuthelo wengane sinamandla kangangokuba ke eshiya uphawu futhi nakamuva ekuphileni kwabo. It ngempela kunemtselela uhlelo ukubaluleka Umbono womuntu zomhlaba. Futhi konke loko abazali abakwazi ukuqonda ngempela, induduzo gona.

Kaningi baba matasa, ihlala yodwa whims da nezinye amaqhinga Naughty ukuze nidonse ukunaka kwabo. izingane ubuhlungu acute kakhulu, ngoba ingane, isimiso, okungavikelwe emiphumeleni yizici zemvelo futhi ngokuvamile abakwazi ukuvikela ngokuphelele ngokwakho. Ngezinye izikhathi asikwazi ngisho ukuqagela, ukuthi ubuhlungu ingane yakhe siqu. ingane Nentukuthelo ifaniswe kuphela ukuthi we isiphepho yokuveza imizwelo yakho, okuyinto okunzima ukulawula.

ukuvukela umbuso unkosikazi

Mhlawumbe lena yiyona ndlela into ebuhlungu kakhulu kungenzeka ukuphila kwabantu ababili othandweni. Lapha, isimo Lokho kwakha ukungathembani, ebiyelwe off sifaneleka ngokuphelele. Kuyadingeka ukuba balungise ubuhlungu ukuhlela imicabango ukuze. Kuyaziwa ukuthi umuntu abaseduze futhi lwendabuko uyakwazi ukususa ngempumelelo inhliziyo ebeleni izenzo zakhe nezenzo ezaziwayo. Khona-ke ubuhlungu kanye ubuhlungu ngokoqobo kuyachichima, abavunyelwe ukumbona iqiniso, okwenza kwaba nzima ukufunda ukubethemba esikhathini esizayo, ukudelela Zethembe namandla akho onke. Abandoned abesifazane noma ishiywe indoda uzodinga zidlule emibuthanweni eziningana esihogweni ngomqondo engokoqobo nengokomfanekiso, ukuze siphinde sithole ezolile.

Ubudlelwano nezwe kanye nokuzinakekela thina uqobo

Bambalwa abantu bazi ukuthi icala - ke isifiso equlekile ekufeni. Kabi umuntu ngokuvamile akwenzi ungaqondi, kodwa kubonisa umuzwa ubudlova ongalawuleki maqondana ophikisana naye. Ngokuvamile lokho akuyona uphuphuma ebusweni, has a amandla omkhulu omubi. It kuvela ukuthi kuzinga ezicashile, abantu ngokuvamile bazimisele ababhubhise nomunye. Noma ubani ongahambi kabi, kodwa abakwazi ngempela zicasulwe kwenye. Uma umuntu ngokwanele uqinisekile ngaye ngokwakhe, kuyinto oludonsa uqine. Lowo othanda yena omuhle iphathelene emhlabeni. Yena ongazange azivumele ukuba ulondoloze imali inhliziyo imicabango elimazayo, akuvamile uyathukuthela abese ubacasukele. Lapho indoda ubuswa ngokuvumelana, uyakwazi ngempela ukujabulela futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi impumelelo.

Imiphumela eqhubekayo umphefumulo efuna nokunganeliseki ezungeze

Kukhona amacala lapho abantu Bazikhandlé baze ukuba ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa, bezama ukuthola at izimbangela ezijulile izingxabano intrapersonal. Udinga ukuthi kufanele ubhekephi ukuze uthole imithombo yenkinga. Believe me, lokhu futhi kukhona odokotela bengqondo Ochwepheshe. Kungenjalo bekuyoba lula ngokwanele ukuba ngamunye wethu nje indlela simbe eyakhe ingqondo nemicabango.

Intukuthelo - akuyona phezu nje isikhathi, zanqwabelana ezimbi. Kuyinto ebuhlungu imizwelo anemibala ukuthi umuntu ongumakadebona, mhlawumbe ngaphezu konyaka, ngakho ayibulale ngempela so simple cha. Ukuze ukufunda izinzwa kubalulekile ukukhetha indlela umsindo esizokwenza umuntu ukugcwalisa isikhala imizwelo ezintsha ezinhle nenjabulo.

Ingabe Zikhona Izimo Ezenza ezinomthelela empilweni

impilo okungokomzimba eduze okuhlobene sengqondo psycho-ngokomzwelo. Yingakho-ke kubalulekile ukuba ukuzinakekela, aphathe imizwa yabo siqu bagxila futhi ungakhohlwa mayelana nezidingo ezibaluleke kakhulu umuntu. Ngeshwa, ososayensi baye bathola isixhumanisi phakathi kwecala kanye nomdlavuza. Lokho, umuntu ngezikhathi ezithile azizwa ngayo ezingenabulungisa ukuba okwenze kuye, ucasulwa, ngokuvamile waphathwa umdlavuza. Ngo amangqamuzana omuntu onecala umzimba ocushiwe, okuhloswe ngaso self-ukubhujiswa. Akukho lutho isimanga e yokuthi ngemva kwesikhathi eside nifuna umuntu onjalo emapayipini ngokuphelele yena.

Esinye isici esibalulekile ezihlobene esimweni esingajabulisi, okuyinto abantu bacasuka. Kunabantu abangazange ekugcineni bazimisele ukuthethelela isitha sakho, ngisho noma akayibuzi. Abanye ngezinye izikhathi ukuphila kwabo konke ayikwazi ukubhekana nomuzwa yokulahlwa kanye nokwenqatshwa, ningathetheleli bese ukhohlwa ukuthukwa. Empeleni scary. Umuntu akazange wafunda indlela yokubhekana izikhalo, nakanjani bagcina okwamanje lesi sifo ngokuzayo, kuyoba nzima kakhulu ukuphila.

Induduzo?

Uma wake othile Yinto embi kakhulu, futhi ungazi kanjani ukubhekana nomuzwa okucindezelayo ihlanjalazwa, amathiphu echazwe ngezansi kuzokusiza. Okokuqala, kufanele siqonde into eyodwa elula: kulapho wena uthwale igqubu, kulapho likhula ngaphakathi kuwe. Misa okuphakelayo wakhe, zikhulise, futhi kancane kancane bhotela. Qonda ukuthi umonakalo ngokwabo kuphela. Intukuthelo - is, eqinisweni aze abe eziphilayo ophendula endleleni ozizwa ngayo kuye. Uma amnike omningi ukunakwa, uqala ukhula futhi uvuthwa. kubalulekile kuwe? Kufanele ukhethe ukuthi ukuthethelela umuntu okonile. Okuhle kunakho konke ukuthi, uma kukhona ubuhlobo ngqo naye. Kodwa ngisho nalapho awusebenzi uxhumana ngqo umsebenzi, khona-ke ungakwazi let go yokucasukela ngokusuka ezinhliziyweni zabo. Kwenze ngempela akulula njengoba kubonakala. Sidinga ukusebenza ngokwakho, futhi zondelelani ukuthethelelwa lo muntu. Uma ucabanga ukuthi ifanelwe bajeziswe, kusho ukuthi enhliziyweni ungakakwazi ayikulungele ukuba aphulukise.

Indlela enhle kakhulu kuyinto kokuthikamezeka. Kwabangela enokwethenjelwa. Thola wokuzilibazisa futhi like ukwenza-spare time sakho. Kwamanye ukunitha ofanele abanye - ufunda izincwadi noma lokuqoqa onodoli. kokuthikamezeka Ewusizo ngoba ikuvumela ukuba uthathe umcabango okhathazayo into entsha, bayeke ukunaka futhi uthole injabulo enchubeni.

Kanjani kuze kube semkhawulweni ngakhubeka?

Kwabanye abantu, ukoniwa leligama lisho ukuphila. Ukubuthelela yokuthonywa imizwelo engakhi kuvame kangangokuthi ke akudingekile ukuba umangale. Ukuze senze isimo sishube nakakhulu, kumelwe ufunde ngesikhathi balahle "esitokisini," abo. Indlela ukukwenza? Uphawula ukuthi wonk 'lihlukile. Kunzima ngempela ukuqonda, ngoba thina njalo bathambekele ekwahluleleni umuntu ngendlela abantu ngokusebenzisa iphrizimu okuhlangenwe nakho kwabo. Nakuba kunzima, zama uzibeka isikhundla okonile. Cabanga yokuthi they nyakazo kule mzuzu ukuxabana lakho. Mhlawumbe akazange kube ukuthi akaqondile ukukucasula, wena nje baye basabela ngakho ngokucijile? Kungcono ukwenza ukuhlaziywa imizwa ngokubhala ke amathuba kuphezulu ukuthi ngeke angithethelele.

Indlela yokuqinisa ubudlelwano phakathi kwamalungu omndeni

Okuqotho ubuhlobo ithemba - iphupho oyinhloko wonke umuntu ovamile. Kodwa, ngeshwa, hhayi wonke umuntu kuvela ukuba qotho ngokuphelele yena nabantu. Kufanele sifunde ukuqonda umlingani wakho kahle ngokwanele ukuba ize akuyona ukufukamela ukukwata ku kuye. Zama ukuba uchithe isikhathi esiningi ndawonye, ukuhlonipha yakhe noma ukukhetha kwakhe, ukwenza nomunye lezimanga. Uma into kwenzeka phakathi kwakho, thola ngokushesha ngosuku olufanayo, ungalindi kuze indebe ukubekezela udla izindwani.

Ngakho, izingxabano, izikhalo - eningi ubuthakathaka, hhayi abantu kokuzethemba. Namandla umuntu ofanayo njalo uyaqonda lokho ekudingayo, futhi ufuna ukuqonda indlela omakhelwane babo. Udinga ukwenza yonke imizamo ukuqeda inzondo enkulu. Ubuhlungu ngaphezulu umuntu, sibi ngoba kuye ehlupheka impilo, jikelele isizinda ezingokwengqondo, okwandisa ingozi yomdlavuza. Lahla yokucasukela - futhi ukuphila kuyoba kubonakale kulula!