Isimo nencazelo yobungane njengendlela yokutshela wena futhi uqonde imizwa yomnikazi wayo

Uthando nobungane kungabizwa ngokuthi yizinqaba ezimbili lapho umhlaba wonke wanamuhla uqhutshwa khona. Umuntu othile uthatha ubungane ngokuphila, ngokoqobo kusukela ekuzalaneni kuze kube sesikhulile, othile uthola umngane othembekile esikoleni noma ekolishi. Indlela enhle yokwabelana nomhlaba wonke injabulo yakho ukufaka inethiwekhi yezenhlalo ngesimo sobuhlobo. Yiqiniso, le milayezo ayihlali nje injabulo futhi ijabule. Kukhona nemigomo mayelana nobungane nencazelo edabukisayo; Lokhu kwenzeka ngokufunda i-goosebumps yabo kudlula isikhumba bese uhlamba inhliziyo. Futhi kukhona nje okuhlekisayo, okubangela ngokumangalela ukumomotheka futhi kukukhumbuze okuthile okuhlekisayo nokuthandana.

Usizi ezimweni

Isimo sobuhlobo nencazelo singaba, njengoba sekushiwo kakade, sigcwele ukudabuka nokudabuka. Ngokuvamile izimo ezinjalo zihlangene nesihloko sothando. Ngokwesibonelo, ukuthi ubuhlungu obunzima buhlinzeka ngokuzinikezela ngobuqotho obuseduze nomuntu onemizwa engafani nobungane. Ngokuvamile, lokho okubizwa ngokuthi "Friendzona" kuyisiqalekiso sangempela nokuhlukunyezwa komngane othandweni. Ikakhulukazi uma into yokufisa ibeka ubuhlobo. Nazi izimo ezifanele:

Kubuhlungu kakhulu uma lo omthandayo enika ubungane.

Kunzima futhi kunzima lapho othandekayo ephonsa, futhi awunazo ngisho nabangane ongazifinyelela. Bazise abangani bakho. Awukho imizwa efanelekile abangane abalungile.

Ubungane besifazane esimweni sokuxhumana nabantu

Isihloko esikhethekile yisimo sobuhlobo besifazane nencazelo. Abantu abaningi banombono wamanga wohlobo luni lobuhlobo - ubungane bamantombazane amabili. Njengabo, abesifazane ekujuleni kwemiphefumulo yabo yizinyoka ezihlanzekile, futhi ubuhlobo babo bungaba nomoya wokuzimela noma wokuzuzisa. Yiqiniso, kwenzeka futhi. Kodwa kukhona nobuhlobo obuqotho obuphelele, bugcwele ukuzinikela kanye nokusekelwa komunye. Futhi abakhombisi futhi abakhohlisayo, kodwa bangempela.

Esinye sezimo ezithandwayo sithi kwabanye besifazane, ikakhulukazi abancane, ukuba bahlale othandweni kusho ukuxoxa ngale mizwa nomngane wakho omkhulu. Kodwa kuyiqiniso! Kuyadabukisa ukuthi lolu hlobo lwothando, cishe, luvele "kungekho lutho olwenziwe". Okungukuthi, kwakungakaze kube khona imizwa yangempela kumuntu. Kodwa eqinisweni ngezinye izikhathi isifiso sokuzizwa ukuthi ukucindezeleka kunamandla kangangokuba intombazane ngokwayo ikulungele ukukholelwa eqinisweni lokumthanda kwakhe.

Uhlangothi oluphambene nobunikazi bomngani besifazane

Kodwa-ke, ungakwazi ukuhlangabezana nama-intanses ase-intanethi kanye nesimo esibukhali kakhulu ngobungane bezintombi ngencazelo ehlekisayo. Ukuzibhala ngokwabo lezi zinkulumo zivame ukuthandwa yizintandokazi ezingenalutho ezithandekayo ezisezintweni zabo zokuthoma okungenani intombi eyodwa engalungile. Ukuziqhenya kwabo ukuthi abantu abavela kulolu "mbhangqwana onobungane" njalo bayabathanda - kuhle futhi bekhangayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukungalungi komngane njalo kugcizelela kuphela izici zangaphandle ze "princess".

Mayelana nezintombi ezimbi

Ubufakazi obumangalisa kakhulu lokhu yilokho okushiwo "ubuhlobo" ukuthi akukho lutho olungahle luhlobise owesifazane osemusha kakhulu futhi lukhulise ukuzethemba kwakhe njengokuba nomngane omkhulu omuhle. Kuyadabukisa, kodwa abaningi empeleni basebenzise ukusebenzisa amaphutha ekubukeni kwabanye ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Izinhliziyo zabo ngokugcwele zigcwele ububi, kanti imiphefumulo ebuhleni obuhle yilapho isisindo esingenakuqhathaniswa somzimba omzimba omncane. Umuntu ofanelekayo, ozihloniphayo akasoze aziqhenya, angeke avumele ukuba wehlele ukuhlambalaza nokuhlazisa omunye.

Ubungane obuhle emibhalweni

Noma nenye enye ikhophi enonya, ethi ukujabulisa owesifazane akukhona kuphela umuntu ohloniphekile, kodwa futhi nabangane "abalingani" abaluhlaza. Lesi simo ngencazelo yobuhlobo obuningi obulingana nobuhle besifazane babo. Mhlawumbe, izindlela zabo zokuphila zazihlanganiswa kuphela ngentando yesikhathi esizayo. Bangaba ngabalingani emsebenzini, obaziyo. Ngokuvamile, ubudlelwane babo buyancipha ukuba ingxoxo engokwemvelo yendabuko yezihloko zabesifazane - amadoda, imfashini, umsebenzi onesizungu futhi, ngempela, lezo "intombi" okwamanje engekho enkampanini. Umthetho ongakhulumi uthi akukho buhlobo bangempela phakathi kokuhleleka okumbalwa. Futhi yilo iqiniso. Yingakho inkulu kakhulu, noma ihlambalaza, injabulo komunye wabo ingaba iqiniso lokuthunjwa komunye.

Isimo esifanayo singabonakala ngesimo ukuthi ubungane bamantombazane bahlala kuze kube mzuzu lapho izithakazelo zabo zihamba. Kulesi simo, abangane bangaba ukuncintisana, uma kungenjalo, izitha ezinkulu.

Imicabango emihle emibhalweni

Kubuye kugcwaliswe ukuhlakanipha, izimo ezinhle mayelana nobungane nencazelo. Enye yalezi zitatimende zithi akulula ukufela umngane, kunzima ukuthola umuntu onjalo ofuna ukumnikela impilo yakhe. Phela, abaningi bajwayele isimo lapho ukuxhumana nomngane noma umngane kuba njalo, ngobuqotho futhi, ekugcineni, nobungane. Konke ezintweni ezinjalo kuxazulula inkinga yokuphila okunzima. Omunye unenhlanhla: umngane ogcwele ukuzimisela, uthembekile ngokwethembeka kuze kube sekupheleni, kodwa omunye akwenzi. Eyesabisa ngobunzima, engafuni ukuzibophezela ngezinkinga zabangamazi, lowo omaziyo uyanyamalala ngokuzumayo empilweni, eshiya eyodwa ngesinye ngesimo esibi. Intengo yobuhlobo obunjalo yi-pittance.

Ngakho-ke, isimo esinomqondo wobungane kuyindlela enhle yokungabelani nje nabanye okushisa ngaphakathi, kodwa futhi ufunde ngalokho okwenzeka kumuntu. Ngempela, into enjalo ebonakala sengathi ilula, isimo enkundleni yokuxhumana nabantu, ingaba nesifiso esikhulu sokutshela ngomnikazi wekhasi. Futhi abangani bangafunda ukuthi lolu buhlobo lusho ukuthini ngomunye wabo.