Kanjani ukuziphatha indoda, noma kungani Angikwazi ukushada.

Okwamanje, acute kakhulu kumibuthano zabesifazane inkinga yokushoda amadoda ehloniphekile futhi uyakufanelekela. Futhi ngakho-ke kubonakala sengathi inkinga ukuphila. Kaningi ufakaze esimweni lapho amahle, smart, owesifazane oludonsa iminyaka eminingi wedwa. Ngesikhathi esifanayo abangane bakhe, ukuba ukubukeka abavamile ngaphezulu, amathuba ama-career engaqinisekile nobuntu eside futhi kahle oshadile bayajabula futhi engesiye kakhulu. Kodwa akulona iphuzu. Into wukuthi wesifazane omuhle kakhulu futhi ehlakaniphile, nazo zonke zawo ezimangalisayo nje abazi ukuthi baziphathe kanjani abantu. Ziyakwazi kusuka onyakeni owodwa ukwenza amaphutha afanayo lapho esebenzelana nama-kwabobulili obuhlukile, futhi kanjalo nje okwesabisa ukhetho amathuba umyeni. Ukuthi baziphathe kanjani nendoda ukuqonda empeleni njengoba kunzima njengoba kubonakala. Kukhona ngisho ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekile lapho wazibonela zokusebenza kwengqondo ukukhuluma kanjani ukukhuluma umuntu futhi ukuziphatha esigabeni sokuqala kuphela eyasungulwa ubudlelwane.

Iqiniso lokuthi, njengoba umthetho, iphutha eyisisekelo ezenziwa ngayo ekuqaleni, uma udinga ube nentshisekelo indoda, abesifazane nje udidekile isiwula oyisiphukuphuku. Kodwa indlela yokubhekana indoda uyakwazi ukwazi ngamunye wabo.

Endaweni yokuqala noma kunjalo akufanele abe nonina. Yiqiniso, kukhona umbono wokuthi amadoda ukhethe omkawo isekelwe esimisweni okufana ngaso nomuntu abaseduze futhi lwendabuko, kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi wena ezinsukwini zokuqala uthando zilawule umsebenzi megazaboty. Angicabangi ukuthi usekhulile akakwazi ukuzivikela kanye ukuphila kwakhe. ukukhathazeka yakho kufanele babe nesu lokungacunuli futhi kunengqondo, futhi uqeda ukulawula umsebenzi wakhe, izimali, abangane noma izingubo okuhle ngeke.

Yiqiniso, ukuthi baziphathe kanjani nendoda - kuyinto daba olubalulekile futhi udinga ukuzama ukugcina ubuhlobo bakho ngazo zonke izindlela, kodwa hhayi nganoma izindleko ubungani. Ngokuvamile ungakwazi bagcine isimo lapho diffident abakhethiweyo ivikela owesifazane kusuka ukuxhumana nezwe ngaphandle, nje leyo ndawo ilahlekelwa abangane, izihlobo kanye ukuxhumana uqobo. Lena akuyona ukuzidela baye ngenxa ubudlelwane. isiqhwaga okunenjongo ezihlakaniphile akasoze akuvumele yokuxhumana nawe nabangani noma abathandekayo.

Khumbula ukuthi akumele bazame ukwenza ngokuphelele ngokuthi ungumuntu. Yiqiniso, ungakwazi ukumjabulisa ukuba repaint izinwele, ukushintsha isitayela, funda ukupheka, noma ukuya ejimini, kodwa kunobungozi bokuthi owesifazane ovelele unesizungu kuye ngokushesha, futhi waqhubeka ukucinga enhle entsha.

Ukuthi baziphathe kanjani indoda na? Musa ukunamathela inkululeko yakhe. Kuyiqiniso owaziwa - bantu bayizinceku kakhulu besaba ukuphelelwa ke, ikakhulukazi ekuqaleni ubuhlobo. Okukhethayo akakwazi futhi akafuni ukukunika njalo ngeminithi isikhathi sakho, ngakho musa ukwenza okufunwa kungazwakali ezinjalo. Musa ukuphoqa ke, kancane kancane uyaqaphela ukuthi ukuchitha isikhathi nawe - kungcono okungcono ungakwazi anayo.

inkulumo nisanda kushada, umndeni nezingane bayakwazi okwesabisa ngisho ikhandidethi eziphikelelayo kakhulu inhliziyo yakho. Man neze has ukuqagela ukuthi wathathwa wasiwa ebhange, futhi ngemva kwesikhathi esithile efuna ukuxhumana no- ukuphila kwakho. Futhi ukukhuluma ngayo ngqo, futhi ngisho ekuqaleni ubuhlobo - nje silly futhi iwubuphukuphuku.

Kukhona inani elikhulu kungenzeka "cha", lapho uthi amadoda bona: hhayi iqembu, musa ukuthi abeke, ungabi njalo esidabukisayo futhi zingajabuli, ungazami ukujabulisa ngasiphi intengo, nokunye. Inkinga wukuthi cishe bonke abesifazane bazi ukuthi baziphathe kanjani nendoda, kodwa lapho baphuphuthekiswe umuzwa omusha, futhi bakholelwa ngokuqinile ukuthi usuthole umphefumulo wakho womshado, zonke anamahlazo kanye namathiphu smart ukhohlwe. Umphumela kungenziwa kuphela etholwe waphinda isizungu nangokudideka, kungani esibi kanjalo amadoda.