"Ngugobe - kuba buhlungu kakhulu futhi ngidumele" - la mazwi uzokutshela yimuphi owesifazane oye ukukhashelwa ezinjalo bese nishaye ukuzazisa ka umuntu amthandayo. Akubalulekile kangako, ukuthi kwenzeka kanjani ukuthi ukwazi ukuthi ethembekileyo zisebuhlotsheni siqu kakhulu ohlangothini. Umbuzo oyinhloko: "Yini okufanele uyenze manje lo azani futhi?" Kungani amadoda kufanele intombi eseceleni "?
Ziyini izimbangela eziyinhloko zalokhu ukuphinga besilisa
Sivumelana ngesikhathi esisodwa, ukuthi sizohlaziya ikakhulu isimo lapho kummeleli ubulili namandla ukhetha ukuba nobudlelwano nabesifazane abaningana. abesifazane abaningi bakhetha ukufunda mayelana nalolu shintsho, ngokushesha asole okungalungile zonke izono ofayo, futhi iqembu elimele ukwakha saint. Futhi ukuhlolwa ngokuphelele engalungile isimo. Phela, esinye sezizathu ezinkulu zokuthi kungani abantu intombi eseceleni, - nezinkinga ihlupha. Man ngokwanele ukuwina esisodwa. On ubudlelwane kudingeka umsebenzi oluphelele nsuku zonke, kudingeka bagcine uzakwethu mathupha zakhe, ngoba kuye ukuba ezithakazelisayo futhi efiselekayo zonke izimo. Khumbula ukuthi ngisho abayitoho intombazane amaziyo ungenza agxila Ukukholelwa yakho ukuthi uma imbangi aqonde kangcono, noma kungaba nesithakazelo into engumngane odlule ayikwazanga ukunikeza. Akufanele sibakhohlwe ngemizwa: uma sase singomunye qakala owesifazane wakhe, yena zizoshintsha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ngokuqinisekile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, angakwazi njalo ukuthandana futhi noma ukuzwa abanothando oluqinile.
Kungani amadoda kufanele intombi eseceleni, lapho konke kuhamba kahle ekhaya?
Okufike kudide nge-isimo ukuthi ushintsho hhayi kuphela boring abafazi uzilungise izivatho futhi ngefaskamu. Ngokuvamile, isimo siba abaphila ngayo ihluke ngokuphelele: umfazi omuhle, indlu ezivamile ukhululekile, ukuchuma ngezinto ezibonakalayo, kuyathakazelisa ukuhlela ezokungcebeleka ngokuhlanganyela. A umyeni sishintsha. Isizathu salokhu ukuziphatha - kungcono bomele nakho ezintsha, mhlawumbe emkhayeni zonke ephelele kakhulu, futhi lokhu buya isidina. Isifiso ukuhamba "elivulekile ngomqondo" kungenzeka ukuthi abeke ku indoda nabangani bakhe abangashadile. Futhi akusiwona nje mayelana abameleli ababuthakathaka sengingene wobulili namandla. Kungenzeka ukuthi unethemba ngempela labetibambile indoda, ngemva kokulalela izindaba zokwenziwe akanye nalo ufisa ukukhumbula intsha futhi wenze amakhono akho.
Okufanele ukwenze ngemuva kokufunda mayelana nalolu shintsho?
Okubaluleke kakhulu, zama ukuqhubeka ngizolile futhi iqonde ukuthi kungani amadoda kufanele intombi eseceleni. Kuhle isixazululo kungaba uthando ipholigoni lapho ithiphu yayo uzothola amandla, futhi ukuchaza kuyinto nomunye abesifazane yakhe. In practice, lokhu kwenzeka akuvamile. Ngokuvamile ishiya omunye wabesifazane, kodwa hhayi ngokushesha. Musa ukubheka intombazane zakho ozithandayo bese uyazama sokulungisa naye. Uma ufuna ukugcina umshado wenu kufanele ufune amaphutha ekuziphatheni kwazo futhi sizame ukulungisa kubo. Ungakhohlwa ukwenza kucace kulowo muntu ukuthi ngeke akubekezelele ukuziphatha anjalo esikhathini esizayo. Mhlawumbe kufanele uchithe isikhathi esithile ngaphandle. Ngokwezibalo, ubuhlobo lapho owesifazane enza lover, akuvamile obuhlala isikhathi eside futhi enamandla ngempela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, le ndoda nomuntu 'uthathile ", simazi kahle ngokwanele, futhi uma babefisa, kungaba zama ukukhumbula indlela yokunqoba inhliziyo yakhe. Yiqiniso, ukube bekunjalo, wathulisa futhi waphumula uzakwethu, le ntengo isazoba azimisele ukubuyela konke emuva.