Mission imbangela: ukukhohlwa yangaphambili?

Njengoba okuningi njengoba singase sifise sengathi, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi leyo ubuhlobo phakathi kwabantu ababili othandweni siphele. Futhi ngokuvamile nzima kithi ukukhohlwa abalingani babo. Futhi kuvimbela ukuphila okuvamile. Ngakho-ke, kukhona izindlela ezimbalwa ukuxazulula inkinga, kanjani ukukhohlwa yangaphambili.

Take it kahle ukuthi wena waphula. Ungabheki necala, hhayi bembe ngokwakho, musa ukwenza amalungiselelo ukubuya Man. Made angabuyeli, ngisho gluing izingcezu vase - ngeke kuphinde kube njengasekuqaleni. Kuyafana nemizwa. Uma uthando uya ke ukusibuyisela manje.

Kuyadingeka ukuba asuse noma yimuphi Isikhumbuzo ex-isoka. Susa nenombolo yakhe kamakhalekhukhwini, izigijimi zakhe, zonke izipho eziyizikhumbuzo, alinika lona. Ngisho noma into eyigugu, kungcono uthenge esisha. Uma kungenjalo, ngeke njalo sicabange ngaye, futhi ngeke kukulimaze. Endabeni kakhulu, ungakwazi ukungeza yonke ebhokisini elikhulu wakufaka away emakhoneni akude.

Indlela ukhohlwe wangaphambili? Misa zonke naye. Ayikho Amakholi efoni, akukho sms, uyisuse ezivela kubangani ku onke amanethiwekhi omphakathi. Ungazami ukuhlala abangane naye. Lapho umuntu uthi kanjalo, wayesalokhu uthemba uqhube ubudlelwane. Kodwa ungalilahli ithemba wena ethembeni elingamanga.

Ngokuvamile, ngemva sokuvalelisa, noma iyiphi intombazane ehlezi ekhaya futhi azibuze: 'Kungani ngingakwazi ukhohlwe ex-isoka? ". Njengoba banal yayisibetha kodwa indlela engcono kakhulu ukuqeda imicabango kabi futhi introspection - kuba ukwenza ibhizinisi. Asikho isidingo ukuhlala ekhaya futhi uyenqaba uhlangana nabangani bakhe. Thola wokuzilibazisa omusha, uthole asebenzayo, babhalisela izifundo nokunye. Ngisho zihamba evamile emoyeni opholile ingakusiza.

Uma une ukuhlala ekhaya, kusengenzeka ukuthole sinokuthile esingakwenza ungenayo ukucabanga, indlela ukukhohlwa yangaphambili. Yenza entwasahlobo yokuhlanza, wafunda incwadi, ukubukela ibhayisikobho, nokunye.

Akunakusetshenziswa ungaqali sokungabaza. Kodwa ke ukuze eduze neurosis. Laceration ekutheni wayenza okulungile, kokuhlukana umfana, lutho okuhle ngeke nilingenise. Udaba vele osekwenziwe. Futhi ngakho musa lihawukele ngakho. Akekho umuntu uhlukile futhi omunye uhlobo, ngakho ungakhathazeki. Uyothola nakanjani ukuthola omunye umuntu.

Okufanele ukwenze uma njalo ngizibuza, 'Angikwazi ukukhohlwa yangaphambili? ". Kungaba iyathandeka, kodwa hhayi ukususa izinkinobho enikeziwe in ubuchopho bomuntu. Ngakho, sinesizathu ukuya namasu ehlukene. Thatha ephepheni bese ubhala ngokuningiliziwe ngokucophelela ngobuhle nangobubi bawo. Ngakho-ke ngeke ukwazi soberly ukuhlola indoda futhi baqonde ukuthi yini eyabangela abantu sehlukene.

Kodwa isizathu kungenzeka le ntombazane. Yiqiniso, akufanele bahlanganyele nokuzibhaxabula self-ukuhlazeka - ke ngeke zisebenze. Kodwa ukuhlolwa nizithibe yezenzo zabo kanye izinga awukwazi ubuhlungu. Ekugcineni, le ndoda - hhayi impahla yakho siqu futhi akuyona into, ngakho-ke kungenzeka ukuyimisa kuye.

Enye indlela yokuxazulula le nkinga, kanjani ukukhohlwa yangaphambili. Hlela iholide. Yebo, kuba iholide. Ukugubha usuku lokukhumbula nabantu abafanayo lokuhlangana ne lomshado, kungani bengawugubhi ngosuku sokuvalelisa? Mema abangani ezinhle, abangane bomshado engajwayelekile. Oxhumana nabo abasha hhayi kuphela ukukukhipha, kodwa futhi akunike ithuba ukuthola insizwa entsha. Into esemqoka ukuthi kumnandi okuhle asikaze siyeke ubani.