Lapho ngizama zonke izindlela lokubuyisana, lapho vytrepany zonke izinzwa ukhathele wonke amathuba, naseduze kanye uthando nomunye abantu bafinyelela esiphethweni ukuthi isehlukaniso phakathi kwazo is ngenakugwemeka. Uma sithinta zindawo kuphela, lo mbhangqwana buthule ukuya ehhovisi lokubhalisa, ukubhala isicelo futhi wamukele amaphepha adingekayo kanye zokunyathelisa. Kodwa nakhu isimo lapho isinqumo sithinta futhi ukuphila encane. Khona-ke nanku umbuzo "ukuthi usifaka kanjani isehlukaniso, uma kunezingane," iqoqo alikho ehhovisi lokubhalisa, aye enkantolo. Nokho, izingane ziye lapho esekhulile, wayengumuntu 18, bese ukuphila kwabo siqu. Kubo, abazali ayisekho ukuhlangabezana. Kodwa uma izingane namanje encane, bese badinga bobabili abazali, ukuchuma nothando. Futhi lena iphuzu moot, okuyinto ovunyelwe ukunquma kuphela inkantolo. Lapha futhi iba umbuzo efanele: "kufayela kanjani mina isehlukaniso, uma kukhona ingane?"
Mayelana nalesi kulula ukubhala, kodwa kunzima ukusebenza umkhuba zonke. Lapho abantu angamazi nhlobo nomunye, ophilayo ngaphansi kophahla olulodwa uguqulwe esihogweni eziphilayo. Futhi ngenxa yokuthi izingane akudingeki siphile kuleli. Lapho emkhathini akhishwa ukuze isimo ukuqhuma, zonke kuyoba lula uma siba buthaka, ngisho isehlukaniso. Ingozi hhayi ukuthi abazali ezingasile nomunye futhi siphile ngaphandle. Ngokuvamile eziyimbangela yalokhu sekuneminyaka kulo mndeni Esikhathini eside ngaphambi kokuba ukubhaliswa kwaso olusemthethweni. Hhayi usuku olulodwa, abantu angamazi nhlobo nomunye. Inkinga akuyona ngisho ukuthi udinga ukuhambisa okuthize ukuze wabelane, uqale lonke futhi. Nge ukuthi abantu nazo ngokuvamile futhi ngaphandle nesehlukaniso, futhi ngokuvamile ngokuzithandela uyavumelana yini ngalezo zinguquko. Le nhlekelele yangempela iqala lapho abantu kuphele ukusebenza ngendlela efanele, wenze izenzo bengafaneleki, lokuxhaphaza izingane nezihlobo. Isehlukaniso - nenkinga enzima, okuyinto akufanele zibe impi futhi mpi. Ngakho-ke, into ebaluleke kakhulu abazali bayazi - siwukuba aziphathe isehlukaniso, uma kukhona ingane, ozolile kakhulu, olinganiselayo futhi wemfanelo. Phela, isimo ngokwengqondo wengane ebaluleke kakhulu kunengcebo futhi uzitholele inzuzo.
Into yokuqala kakhulu okudingeka uzenze - kuyinto ukuzola. Futhi kuphela ke ngaphandle imizwelo ukuzibuza ukuthi usifaka kanjani isehlukaniso, uma kukhona ingane. Ukuze lula lokhu inqubo ezingemnandi imele ekuqaleni konke ukuxoxisana bodwa. Sidinga bavumelane Eqinisweni yesehlukaniso, ngakho wayengazimisele mutual ngokuphelele. Kufanele kube khona izimangalo impahla emelene nomunye. Ukuze icaciswe ngubani futhi kuphi niyophila kuka ukuba ngumnikazi nokunye. Futhi okubaluleke nakakhulu, ukuthi kukhona ukuvumelana olujwayelekile mayelana ingane: ungubani, njengoba sizobona nabanye umzali, owawushade naye kuyodingeka ngokukanomphela ofuna ukusiza ngokufundisa futhi ukusekela ingane. Uma lezi izinkinga ziyaxazululwa phakathi kwakho, le amacala ezehlukaniso enkantolo akuyona ezahlukene ikakhulukazi kusukela evamile izinqubo imibhalo zomthetho.
Nokho umbuzo ukuthi usifaka kanjani isehlukaniso, uma kukhona ingane, namanje evulekile. Akekho othanda lokudlela ezungeze ibhithi iphepha, bese kufanele. Okokuqala, bhala amazwi angase ashiwo ekhona e isampula Isivivinyo ngasinye, okhombisa yonke idatha, amaqiniso balelo cala noma cha ngesivumelwano obube naso, kanye lokwakha isicelo enkantolo. Ungabhala noma ngayiphi indlela, kodwa njengoba ngokucacile futhi ngamafuphi. INkantolo ayidingi imizwelo kanye ukucasuka kuphela amaqiniso. Isicelo nibeka amakhophi ama-passport, izitifiketi zomshado azale izingane, kokuthola nokukhokhwa kwezimali zombuso kanye namanye amadokhumenti ibhizinisi ahlobene. Futhi konke lokhu ngempela ngeduplikhethi. Ukuze uthinte ummeli ezimweni okungezona ukungqubuzana kakhulu. Kodwa ukucacisa inqubo ukukhokha izindleko zakho ikakhulukazi enkantolo. Ihhovisi enkantolo Uyohlale ulwazi olufanele nemininingwane.
Inqubo yomthetho waqala, futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kuyothiwa sebeqedile. Kodwa umbuzo zokuziphatha ngeke ahlupha isikhathi eside. Indlela ukufaka isehlukaniso, uma kukhona ingane, futhi ingabe kulungile?