Isithembu - kuyini? Ingabe ngokwemvelo umuntu?

Eminyakeni yamuva, abaningi kuba isihloko ingxoxo ezifana isithembu. Kuyini lokhu? Igama, elikwaziyo ukuchaza lesi simo kungcono kakhulu - isithembu. Okungukuthi, kuba nesimo lapho komshado ngesikhathi esifanayo phakathi oyedwa wobulili obufanayo futhi amaningi - okuphambene.

Isithembu kubantu kungenzeka zezinhlobo ezimbili. imigomo "polygyny" futhi "polyandry" asetshenziselwa ubheke kubo. Polygyny is kugcwele amazwe Islamic , futhi kuhilela khona abafazi eziningana wendoda eyodwa. Polyandry yena, kusho polyandry.

Kakade kakhulu imigomo ukutholakala idatha isiqinisekiso yokuthi kokubili amadoda nabesifazane ngokulinganayo othambekele lomkhuba isithembu. Okungukuthi, sishilo ngenhla, kodwa kubalulekile ngokulinganayo uqaphele ukuthi lisho ukuthini igama elithi kweqiniso kusho ncamashi umshado, okungukuthi, ukuba nobuhlobo obungathi sina, ezihilela kwesisekelo, izibopho mutual nendlu ezivamile, okuyinto neze into efanayo okuxekethile.

Nokho, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zithi ubunjalo abesifazane kakhulu itholakala uhlobo monogamous. Ezinye zilandise njengoba ubufakazi yokuthi ngesikhathi umjikelezo abesifazane iqanda elilodwa kuphela ukuvuthwa, abanye banomuzwa wokuthi isifiso ukuthola umlingani oyedwa njalo kumiselwe ithonya lenkolo ingxenye kakhulu, amasiko eminyaka ubudala kwezizwe eziningi.

Madoda, ngokuphambene basekela inkolelo yokuthi esingokwemvelo esithenjini kuzo ekuqaleni. Ngokuvamile kuba lezi isitatimende mbumbulu yesayensi bafuna ukuba bathethelele ukwehluleka ukuba sethembeke indoda eyodwa, isifiso njalo ufune abalingani ezintsha futhi esisha, ehlukahlukene yokuphila zabo zobulili.

Lokho kuholela ukuthuthukiswa izimfanelo ezifana isithembu? Yiziphi lezi zizathu? Ake sizame ukuhlunga lokhu ndawonye.

1. Nokuntula usizo yomama noma zoyise. Abesilisa kulesi simo babheke ngoba e abalingani babo, hhayi kuphela umngane womshado ezingaba, kodwa umuntu bazokwazi esikhundleni umama. Ngo enganakile abazakhele bona isithombe abanye enhle, futhi ekufuneni kwakhe, zingashintsha eziningi abesifazane. La mantombazane ukuthi beze ubudlelwano eziningana ngesikhathi esisodwa, sihlanganise izinzuzo zonke nabalingani bayo .. Omunye kusitsho ukuhlakanipha kwesibili, kwesithathu futhi elikhangayo, njll Engqondweni, bona hlanganani bonke laba bantu ku isithombe esisodwa esiphelele sokuba amadoda anamandla, enhle futhi behlakaniphile.
2. izinhlelo zangaphakathi. Yokuzingabaza - yezimbangela ezivame kakhulu esithenjini, lapho umuntu efuna ukuba bagomela ngokwaso ngezithukuthuku yini ayithandayo kubantu eziningana.
3. abazali Imperious. eqinile ngokweqile abazali nakho kungaba nomthelela ukuvela ezinjengokungcoliswa isithembu. Kusho ukuthini? Ngisho nalapho sesikhulile, abantu unganakile wesaba ukuba ngaphansi kwethonya engumashiqela entsha, futhi ngenxa yalokho uvikela ubuhlobo obungathi sina eside.
4. Engqondweni umuntu bangakulungeli ukwakha umkhaya, ukuba banakekele hhayi nje lwakhe kuphela kodwa nabanye abantu.

Nomfazi oyedwa, isithembu elikhona emhlabeni isilwane. Futhi phakathi abamele zinhlobo zingase abesilisa monogamous futhi esithenjini nabesifazane.