Kuyini lenani Psychology yokuxhumana?

Uwuchaze zakudala, ungasho ukuthi awukwazi ukuphila emphakathini futhi akhululeke emtheleleni wawo. Kuyini ukuhlobana, kungashiwo waqonda kuphela ngokuziqhathanisa namanye amalungu omphakathi, kanye nombono wabo nencazelo. Uma thina musa angena imithetho esungulwe zokuziphatha, siyakholwa, noma ophendukezela, noma abantu abagulayo. Ngakho-ke yini ukuhlobana futhi kanjani ukuqonda leli gama?

Ngokuvamile, lokho okushiwo yile "isimo ukuhambisana." Ngokwesibonelo, ukubingelela kufanele basabele kahle, ngaphandle kwalokho thina okubona kungafanelekile. Izinga lobulukhuni ukubonakaliswa imizwa nakho kufeza indima ebalulekile kulokhu. Kuyini nokuqonda okwanele kwengqondo nomphakathi? Leli khono ukuze bagcine indlela yokuziphatha, izindinganiso zokuziphatha bamukeleke umphakathi unikezwa, futhi ahlale ngaphakathi indlela "evamile" wokuphila. Uma ziyazithanda, isibonelo, karate, kodwa umsebenzi awusebenzisi amasu efanele umngane izinkolelo, futhi kungagcini ukwakhiwa ngamazwi, ukuba niqhubeke ezanele. Wazi kanjani ukuthi ukuziphatha kwakho kuyavumelana kohlaka "uhlu lwezincwadi zeBhayibheli"? Buka abanye. Konke isihlobo, ngoba uma Papuans yokutholwa bayakhonza poterevshis amakhala, akusho ukuthi le ndlela ukubingelela uzokwamukeleka ngu bamasheya enkampanini yakho.

A uhlobo vivinyo ukubaluleka komuntu ngokuvamile sisetshenziswa ukukhethwa - Filtration - abaqashwa kakade ngesikhathi ingxoxo lokuqala. Phela, ukuziphatha kwabasebenzi kuncike ekugcineni isithombe ibhizinisi kanye ngisho sha. Uma imibuzo recruiter "Ungowaphi wena Zikhetha ukuklaba?", "Nicabanga ukuthi kufanele uchithe spare time sakho?" nawenza izimpendulo ezinemininingwane olunzulu, echaza konke imikhuba yakho Culinary futhi sanikela interlocutor lakhe ngisho nasemininingwaneni emincane kakhulu, kungenzeka ukuthi ngeke ovivinyweni zenele. Kanjani ukuqonda, Ukhona noma hhayi umqondo "esejwayelekile"? Lalela interlocutor yakho. ahlaziye ngokucophelela isimo zokuxhumana, zama ukucabanga kusengaphambili, ikhumbula ukusabela kungenzeka amazwi akho. Ukuhambisana nemigomo owamukelwa ukuziphatha - okungukuthi ezanele ngomqondo ovamile. Kufanele nakanjani acabangele izici yobuhlanga yokuxhumana. Ngokwesibonelo, uma umuntu Russian kubhekwa ingevamile ukusebenzisa "ku ingilazi itiye," umakhelwane, noma umngane ubudala, futhi uhlale kuze kube sebusuku kakhulu, abameleli bezinye izizwe akunakwenzeka wenza kanjalo uyokuqonda. EJalimane, uphuzwe kusengaphambili ukuxwayisa ngokuhambela kwakhe. Ungamangali uma abanikazi ungafaki etafuleni izitsha ezimbalwa futhi ayinikezi ebusuku, ngoba usuvele sekwephuzile lokhu ngakho bangakwazi ukuya ekhaya.

Kungenzeka yini ukuhlola nokwanela amasistimu ethu, imicabango yabantu, imibono? Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zithi umbandela main kuyinto kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sihambisana "evamile" - ukufeza umphumela oyifunayo, umgomo. Yiqiniso, ngamunye bangabanikazi, kanye nezindlela ukuqaliswa yabo. Futhi akuyona izenzo zethu uqondane okulindele kothile. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulu ebuhlotsheni nabanye abantu. Uma iholele ekuzuzweni we oyifunayo, kuthathwa ngokuthi izinhlelo zethu ezanele.