Lasekuqaleni umqondo ekuphileni

Uke wacabanga yini umehluko phakathi ukucabanga sesilwane womuntu? Yiqiniso, sithanda ukuba anakekele abantwana, Isifiso siyadla, silale bese nijabula, kodwa kukhona into emikhulu, lokho amasethi omkhulu kithi sihluke ezweni isilwane. Lena - Ukufuna injongo yokuphila. Kuphela indoda phakathi kwawo wonke abameleli izwe abahlala uyazi ukuthi uyafa. Futhi eyinqaba kuye kuphela ukubuza imibuzo: "Kungani ngilapha Kuyini yami? Umqondo ekuphileni?"

Okokuqala, kufanele kuphawulwe ukuthi akukho ndawo lapho impendulo yalo mbuzo. Unga cinga ulwazi ezinkolweni emhlabeni futhi isayensi, ukunikela ngokuphila kwakhe abajikelezayo ukusesha okuthile, lokho okuholela ukuthi umphefumulo. Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo izimpendulo ezamukelekile eliqinisekisiwe abekho. Okuningi ngokunembile, ngakho - wonke umuntu siqu sakhe, nokuthi umuntu ebonakala ngokuphelele kuyiqiniso, enye ibonakala okungenanzuzo.

"Emhumeni yokucabanga"

Kukhona ngekungababati kumnandi mayelana Eqinisweni wathi umqondo onjalo e umuntfu lakhetsa kuphila ngato. Lokhu unokuthile akucabangayo mayelana nokuthi iyini injongo yokuphila ahlinzekwa uSocrates ngaphambi kwesikhathi sethu esivamile, kodwa isetshenziswa osukwini lwethu ukucabanga ukuthi kuncane kangakanani esikwaziyo ngomhlaba umuzwa wangempela futhi ayiqiniso ngayo amazulu nomhlaba. Cabanga ukuthi ezijulile emhumeni abantu. Ophahleni nezindonga bebona ithunzi - projection okwenzekayo ngaphandle emhumeni. Azikwazi noma ungafuni ukuba baphume, futhi konke ekwenzayo - ngahlulele izwe ngokuya ezihambayo izithunzi. Uma ufuna ukwazi ukuthi umqondo wokuthobela omunye umuntu ngenjongo yokuphila, ungesabi ukuthola waphuma ebhalwini. Noma okungenani hhayi ukwahlulela by ithunzi.

Shiya indawo induduzo

Kwelinye izinsuku enhle kakhulu ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle. Uzizwe ungakhululekile. Wacabanga ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle. Yini ngempela? Yebo, yilokho kuphela, njengoba ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa injongo yokuphila? Ingabe indlela efanele ukuhambisa into? Noma impilo yakho yonke - kungcono khona isimiso kuze kube sekufeni?

Uhambisa endaweni efanele, uma ubuza imibuzo efana nale. Phela, yokuthi ucabanga ngencazelo khona, baye wakukhipha emjikelezweni ezivamile zokuphila "ukudla, ukulala, ujabule. ' Kodwa manje into ebaluleke kakhulu - abayeki bese uqhubeke "uhambo" befuna, yini umbono wakho ekuphileni. Ungenzi lutho budedengu. Kodwa kungani engeke ashintshe into empilweni futhi musa ukuzama into entsha?

Comfort zone libizwa emjikelezweni evamile khona. "Umbuthano" ngenxa yokuthi ukuphila kwethu ihamba kahle ngendlela evamile, njengoba in the movie "groundhog Day." Ukuze ushintshe okuthile - ke ukucasula esele. Futhi kungani kungenjalo? Ngemva kokuziphatha izenzo ezifanayo wokufika akunakwenzeka ukuthola umphumela omusha. Kodwa nguye, futhi ufuna - ukuthola imibono yakho siqu ukuze impilo entsha.

Nsuku zonke wena ezahlukene

Siye sathola ukuthi ngamunye unencazelo ayo zokuphila, futhi ayikho injongo eyodwa lesifanele. Kodwa kunokunye futhi ukuthi kufanele uqonde magange ukuthola injongo yokuphila kweqiniso. Phakathi nokuphila imibono zizoshintsha.

Uneminyaka engamashumi amabili, futhi iyini injongo yokuphila, ubonakala uzithola nasembonini wezomsebenzi, neengcezu yabo. Wena amathathu, futhi kubonakala sengathi ayikho into ebaluleke kakhulu ukwedlula ilungelo ukuze bakhulise izingane. Wena amane, nezinto eziza kuqala ekuphileni washintsha futhi. Futhi konke ngokuphelele evamile. Wena akhule, beshintsha isimo sakho, futhi ngenxa yalokho, injongo yokuphila. Akunangqondo ukuba sikhumbule indlela lapho kwakufanele eminyakeni eyishumi edlule futhi ke behleka namagugu abo. Ukube bekungengenxa ukuthi - ubungeke lapho ngikhona namuhla.

Indlela azithola ekuso

Ngakho, lapho ukuya uma unquma uzithola, kulokho isiqondiso? Okokuqala, uphendula lo mbuzo: kokuba Ingabe yakho ukhululekile? Imibono yakho obusingethwe ukuphila, imenze ukwaneliseka kwakho, noma ucabanga ukuthi umsebenzi wakho ngeze na?

Uma ukhululekile futhi kahle namuhla, akusho ukuthi wena oyiwonawona. Mhlawumbe wena emzuliswaneni isimiso, "phumani" kusukela lapho nje lazy kakhulu, futhi kube yingozi. Kakade, ubani azi ukuthi yini ezokwenzeka uma ukuphuma ozizwa ungakhululekile ukuwenza.

Hlala nabantu "kwesokudla"

Umbuzo wesibili, okuyinto kubalulekile okufanele uzibuze wona uwukuthi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sisendaweni ekahle? Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi siyakuthanda noma cha, kepha abantu ezisizungezile, ngempela nethonya elikhulu kithi. Asikho isidingo kufanele ukuba ungungqondongqondo ukuqaphela ukuthi uma abangane nabalandeli utshwala, iwukuba ahole indlela yokuphila enempilo kuyoba lula.

Abantu ezizungezile kufanele lusenze wena isifiso esithile, isifiso sokuguqula, ukuthuthukisa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kubalulekile ukuthi kwakungabafundi sithandwa futhi onothando, ngoba amandla lothando uyasondla kakhulu.

Setha amagoli

"Uma ufuna hlekisa Nkulunkulu - amtshele izinhlelo zakho" - akekho ongasisebenzisa phikisana nala mazwi, ngoba izinguquko ekuphileni zenzeka ngokuphazima kweso futhi okungahleliwe. Kodwa ukubhukuda like a hala, umfula, elinde lezi zinguquko, futhi, akunjalo. Ukuthuthukisa isu impilo yakho. Ifomu injongo lapho uthuthela. Mhlawumbe wena ukhathele ophilayo nabazali bami, futhi ufuna indlu yami? Awu, lokho kuyinto umgomo. Cabanga ukuthi ingakanani imali osibekele ngokuba ukuqaliswa lo mgomo, kungaba real ngomsebenzi wakho, noma sekuyisikhathi ukushintsha into empilweni yakho?

Ungesabi lothando

Abantu abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi uthando futhi yokubonisana uthando izindaba ayibi mibi, futhi zingaphinde ukufeza eziphakeme oyifunayo. Umsebenzi ithuba ukuhlehlisa futhi buthelela, yokuchitha isizungu nabangani - liyombozwa nge indishi ithusi, kubalulekile ukuvumela empilweni yakho umuzwa. Eqinisweni, lezi imibono baqiniseka okungalungile.

Kuyinto uthando ukuthi kusishukumisela ukuba ngcono, lwela okuthile okusha. Ungesabi of ubudlelwano kanye ungagijimi kuzo. Njengoba omunye abayiziqumama abaye got ezinhlwini phezulu ukukuqeda magazini "Forbes", into ebaluleke kakhulu empumelelweni - emshadweni ophumelelayo. It kwavusa umkakhe, kepha nxa esehlisa izandla zakhe, nokuthi-ke kufanele asize uMkhandlu ezikhathini ezinzima.

Ungesabi yokushintsha

Kuthiwani uma silinganisela ukuthi udinga ukuba sijabule, uyaqaphela ukuthi kubalulekile ukunquma mayelana nezinguquko ezinkulu ekuphileni kwakho? Ngokwesibonelo, ukuze lisinde umsebenzi ukhululekile, kodwa ephansi ikhokhwe ukuthuthela kwelinye idolobha? Kuthiwani uma nawe ngokuzumayo waqaphela ukuthi engajabule emshadweni, kodwa utholakala enecala kwezihlobo eziseduze, uma ushiya umndeni wakho?

Akekho uzokweluleka isinqumo esifanele. Kodwa iphuzu liwukuthi okulandelayo - kufanele baphile ukuze kuvumelane ngokwakho. Uma ukhathazekile ngesimo samanje, uma ungakhululekile nganoma yisiphi isizathu, lapho-ke kudingeka ushintshe okuthile. Kungakhathaliseki imibono ewusizo ekuphileni, umthetho lo - uzizwa okuhle, futhi umphefumulo wakho ecaleni ubonakala elungile kuwe. Uma lo mthetho woniwa, khona-ke alikho umuzwa ukukhuluma mayelana yokuthola injongo ekuphileni.

Ungesabi ukuthi uzolahlwa

Ngandlela-thile, bonke abantu zibalulekile kakhulu ukwamukela imibono yabanye. Futhi lokho bangibheka? Futhi ukuthi uzokutshela abazali (nomkayo, abangane, esisebenza nabo)?

Njalo ezindla ngabe ukuthatha okuthile noma cha, sibheka ngokwengqondo emuva yini sonke lesi sixuku, ungasemuva kwethu. Kwathi ebona ukulahlwa ngobuso babo, futhi siye wahlehlisa isinqumo ukuba zijabule. Misa ukubeka ezinye imicabango yabantu zabantu ngenhla bebodwa! Uma inkosi zokuphila kwakho, futhi unqume ukuthi wenzani. Eqinisweni, ecela iseluleko kunoma ubani, nawe nje nokususa zibhekane nemiphumela yezenzo zazo emahlombe kothile. "Cha, akufanele zikwenze," - ikutshela umngane wakho. Futhi kumelwe uphendukele kude amaphupho abo kanye nezifiso, nge gidi engqondweni.

Misa ophilayo ngaphansi kohlelo ubudala. Uma uthatha izinqumo ezibalulekile, futhi wena wedwa izoba nesibopho ngemiphumela esikhathini esizayo. Ngaphambi kokuba noma ubani aphendule? Yebo wena!

Khumbula ingxenye ebonakalayo

Kungakhathaliseki umbono wakho akukhethile ukuba ekuphileni, khumbula ukuthi kuphela umzimba ophilile kungaba nomuzwa omkhulu, izifiso kwesokudla. Musa ukuphika igobolondo sakho somzimba e injabulo efana ukudla okuhle kanye nokuzivocavoca. It ungathanda amanga phezu kombhede futhi tuck ibe pizza ne ice cream, nomzimba ukunyakaza futhi ufuna ukudla langempela.

imikhawulo abahlukahlukene kanye nokuzivocavoca enobudlova - hhayi ikhambi noma. Ukuze uqale nge give up ukudla okungamfanele, adalwe ngendlela yezimboni. Yidla imifino, izithelo, inyama organic nenhlanzi. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uyoba ungasafuni "ukungcola" ifomu ukudla okusheshayo, umuntu ngisho ufuna ukuyeka inyama. Kodwa-ke kuyoba okukhethayo siqu, hhayi ebekwa othile kusuka ngaphandle. Njengoba ezemidlalo, uzodinga futhi ukulalela lokho umzimba wakho ufuna. Singasho dancing, ukufaneleka, ukugijima ekuseni noma okudliwa Ukugibela ibhayisikili phakathi komuzi. Akunakusetshenziswa musa bophezela ukuya ejimini futhi ngentonga yensimbi, ngokungazelelwe "wakho" - a yoga noma Pilates?

By endleleni, ingabe - ke futhi iseluleko esihle kulabo abaye ungakabi usunqumile ukuthi umqondo wakhe ekuphileni. Ngena umkhuba - emva kwezinyanga ezintathu ekuqaleni ngendlela efanele futhi engenalo udlame wokuphila kuwe "ngeke" ngokwalo, kunawe kufanele bakwenze ukuze uzizwe ujabule.

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Ngakho, liyini-ke, ingabe umbono esifanele wena? Photo labantu abajabulayo asibonise ukumamatheka ebusweni babo, ukuphumula nokuthula. Kungenxa yalesi sizathu ngeke bakwazi lamukele kunoma ubani ukuthi kungaba - eqinisweni wonke umuntu angakwazi bajabule ngenxa yezizathu okuhluke kakhulu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi laliyini, ungavumeli muntu iphazamise injabulo yakho siqu. Iningi ngokuvamile izitha zethu ezinkulu - kuyinto thina, noma kunalokho, ukwesaba kwethu, izakhiwo, ukuncika imibono abayinikezwa ngabanye. Zibandakanye yini oyithandayo, ungesabi yokushintsha, ungagijimi nothando. Uma ungazi namuhla yini umbono wakho we injongo yokuphila, akusho kutsi labo bakha komuntu ingqondo yakhe kakhulu. Zibandakanye ukhululekile ngawe ukubuka imisebenzi yezemidlalo, iya ku ukudla okunempilo, banake izithakazelo zakho - kanye impendulo kuzofika maduze.