Ubani ongqingili? Kuyini ukuhlukunyezwa?

Ukuhlolisana ngokobulili - kuyini? Ngeshwa, isiko lomphakathi esingasetshenziswanga ngokobulili sikhombisa ukuthi ngisho nabantu abadala abakwazi njalo imiqondo eyisisekelo kwezocansi. Ukuze uphendule lo mbuzo: "Ubani obesilisa ocansini na?" - umuntu kumele aqonde ukuthi yikuphi ukuhlukumeza ngokobulili.

Ukuhlukumeza ngokobulili kuyisithakazelo kobulili obuhlukile. Kubalulekile ukuphawula ukuthi lokhu kungaba umzwelo, ukukhathazeka, ukuthandana noma ubulili. Ukuhlukumeza ngokobulili kuvamile kubantu abaningi, kodwa hhayi bonke.

Uma umuntu ethandana ngokobulili, kusho ukuthini lokhu? Leli phephandaba lahlongozwa nguRichard Kraft-Ebing, owayekholelwa ukuthi ukuziphatha kabi ngokobulili kuyisimo esingenasimo esihlose ukuqhutshelwa kohlobo. Phela, kungukuya ocansini ngokobulili okungabangela ukukhulelwe. Kuze kube manje, leli gama linencazelo ebanzi. Lokhu akuyona nje enye yezinhlobo zocwaningo lobulili. I-Heterosexuality iyimbangela yomhlaba wonke yemvelo. Ukuhlolisana ngokobulili - ngubani lo? Lo ngumuntu oheha abantu bezobulili obuhlukile.

Enkulumweni yokuhlangana, abantu abesilisa nabesifazane baqanjwa ngokuthi abantu abaqondile. Kungani ungabiza nje laba bantu "evamile"? Iqiniso liwukuthi ukujwayelekile kakade kunqunywe hhayi kuphela ngokobulili obufanayo. Ngokuvamile kuvamile ukukhomba okuphathelene nobulili. Ababhekwa njengeziphambeko, futhi ukuhlukumeza ngokobulili kuyinto evamile. Lezi yizinhlobo ezintathu kuphela, enye yazo ejwayelekile kakhulu. Uhlelo lokubaluleka oluqaphela ukuhlukunyezwa kobulili njengendlela yodwa kanye nemvelo yokuqondisa ibizwa ngokuthi i-heterosexism. Mhlawumbe abangane bakho nabo bayabesilisa nabesifazane. Isithombe asibonisi umehluko phakathi kwabantu abahlukahlukene.

Izimpawu zokuhlukumeza ngokobulili

Izimpawu zokuhlukumeza ngokobulili zihlanganisa imizwa ehlukahlukene umuntu ajwayele ukuzwa ngayo phambi kobulili obuhlukile. Amadoda angabonga izinwele zabesifazane, isikhumba sethenda, amabele aqina. Ngokwemvelo, lokhu kuzobenza bajabule futhi bafisa ukuqhubeka nokuxhumana. Bese kuholela ebuhlotsheni bobulili nomuntu wobulili obuhlukile. Abesifazane bakhangwa amandla namandla wesilisa. Bethandwa ngobuningi, ukuzimisela nokuzethemba. Uma umuntu ezwa imizwa enjalo, ke uyithandana (yikuphi, sesivele sithole).

Izifo

Akekho udokotela ozocacisa ubulili. Umuntu kuphela ongakwazi ukubona ukuthi ubulili obuphikisana naye. Ukuqwashiswa nokwamukelwa kokukhetha kwakho akufiki ngokushesha. Ngezinye izikhathi umuntu anganquma kuphela phakathi kokuphila kwakhe - ubungqingili noma abesilisa nabesifazane.

Kuyini ukukhanga nokuthi ungayibona kanjani? Lokhu kungokwemvelo, yena ngokwakhe uzofika lapho kufika isikhathi. Sekukhulile, umuntu uqala ukukhanga ngokucacile kobulili obuthile.

Isayensi isho ngani ngalokhu?

I-Sexology ikholelwa ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa kobulili obufanayo kanye nobungqingili kuyizinkomba zobulili ezilinganayo, ezilinganayo ngokufanele. Umuntu akakwazi ukulawula ukuziphatha kwakhe kocansi, kepha ukuze afinyelele injabulo nokuvumelana ekuphileni kufanele aphile ngokuhambisana nokukhangwa kwakhe. Noma yikuphi ukubandlululwa kubhekwe njengombono ongalungile wabantu abangakwazi ukuvuma ukuthi kukhona amanani okubuka amaningana alinganayo. Ukuhlolisana ngokobulili - ngubani lo? Umuntu ofanayo ojwayelekile, njengabo bonke abanye.

Ukuziphatha ngokocansi kwabantu abesilisa nabesifazane

Sekuyisikhathi eside ubulili besifazane bubhekwa njengendlela ewukuphela kweqiniso kwezocansi. Futhi nje nje nje, ekuqaleni kwekhulu lama-20, ubulili baqala ukuhlanganiswa hhayi kuphela ngokukhiqiza, kodwa futhi ngokuthokoza. Kwaba phakathi nalesi sikhathi lapho i-caresses ehlukahlukene, engaxhunywanga ngokuqondile nezocansi zangasese, yaqala ukubonakala ngokuthi "evamile".

Kuze kube manje, izinhlobo zokuziphatha ngokobulili kwabantu abesilisa nabesifazane zihlukene kakhulu. Umbhangqwana ngamunye ukhetha ama-caresses afanelekayo, okuyokwanelisa bobabili abalingani. Izindlela ezivame kakhulu zokuhlukunyezwa kwabantu abesilisa nabesifazane zihlanganisa: ukugqugquzelwa kwezitho zangasese (i-fallatio ne-cunnilingus), ubulili bomlomo kanye nesilwane, ukuxubana, njll.

Umuntu - isidalwa esinamakhono amaningi, okuqhubeka ngaso sonke isikhathi. Akukho lutho oluhlala unomphela emibonweni yakhe, ekuthandeni nasekuthandeni. Kumele ucabangele lokhu futhi uqonde ukuthi bonke abantu bahlukile. Akukho okufanayo, kodwa bobabili banelungelo lokuba khona: ubungqingili noma abesilisa nabesifazane. Yimaphi lawo magama asho ukuthi, sazama ukuchaza kalula.