Ukukhulelwa kwesikhathi eside

Kulezi zikhathi ezikude, lapho iminyaka engama-25-27 owesifazane ebizwa ngokuthi "udala". Futhi abazange bakhulume ngoba befuna ngandlela-thile bazama ukubamba umama wesikhathi esizayo, kodwa ngoba ngalezo zinsuku kwakubizwa ngokuthi "ukukhulelwa kwesikhathi eside". Manje leli gama elicasulayo lisetshenziswe kakhulu, ngoba Izikhathi, ukuziphatha, nobudala bomama zishintshile.

Ukukhulelwa kwesikhathi eside kwenzeka emva kweminyaka engama-35. Futhi ukuchaza lokhu kulula kulula: namuhla abesifazane abaningi nabaningi bahlehlisa ukuzalwa kwengane ngezikhathi ezithandekayo, ngokubhekisela emisebenzini, emfundweni, emalini yokuboleka imali, emiholo emihle. Futhi kuphela uma beneminyaka engama-35 ubudala baqala ukucabanga ngomndeni nengane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, inani lehlukaniso, kanye nemishado ephindaphindiwe, lapho izingane zizalwa khona kakade kubazali asebekhulile kunama-40 kunyuke kakhudlwana.

Mhlawumbe, kunengqondo emisebenzini enjalo, kodwa kufanele bazi ukuthi ukukhulelwa kwesikhathi sekwephuzile kufaka imiphumela ethile, engifuna ukuyitshela labo abazokwenza okufanayo.

Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi uma uneminyaka yobudala, amandla okubeletha ancipha, ngakho-ke ukukhulelwa kuba yinkambinkimbi enzima, ngoba I-stock of ovules, ehlehliswa ngokwemvelo, iyanciphisa kakhulu. Lokhu kungavimbela nokuya esikhathini, emva kweminyaka engamashumi amane. Kusukela eminyakeni engama-35, ingozi ye-chromosomal engavamile yengane engakazalwa ikhula njalo. Kodwa-ke, konke lokhu okungenhla akusho ukuthi udinga ukuyeka umqondo wokuba nengane esilinde isikhathi eside, udinga nje ukwazi ngokwanele kuzo zonke izinkinga ezithandayo.

Okokuqala, udinga ukuthola isazi sokubeletha esinekhono okumele ukukhulelwa kwesikhashana kube okukhethekile. Kuyoba mnandi ukuxhumana nomuntu ozokwazi ukusiza wena nomyeni wakho ukunciphisa ingozi yokukhubazeka kwezakhi zofuzo.

Futhi uma sekwephuzile kakhulu ukuzala? Ngokukadokotela, ukukhulelwa eminyakeni engama-50 kuyinto engathandeki kakhulu, kodwa kumnandi ukubheka abadumile abakhona kulokhu ababeletha. Ngemva kokubeletha, bayamomotheka ngeHollywood yabo imomotheka kusukela ezikrinini, zikhanya ngenjabulo. Futhi kuphela, nodokotela bazo bayazi, yimiphi imizamo, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo nemali bayabanika lo mama. Iningi lwakamuva, odokotela bathi emva kokuqala kokuya esikhathini, lapho ukukhiqizwa kwamaqanda akhule ngokugcwele kungasakwazi khona emzimbeni wesifazane, ukukhulelwa akuyona into engokoqobo, kodwa namuhla, uma ubuchwepheshe bamuva buvumela ukukhubazeka ukuba kuphulukiswe, ukuvundiswa kwe-in vitro kuvumela abesifazane abaningi ukuba babe nezingane ngisho nangemva kokumisa esikhathini.

Njalo konke ukukhulelwa emva kweminyaka engama-50 ukuze owesifazane ojwayelekile wesilinganiso sesibalo angabonakala kunzima ngokwanele. Futhi lapha udokotela omuhle usalokhu eyingxenye yempi, ngoba ukubeletha okunjalo kusengcupheni enkulu kokubili umntwana nomama.

Kodwa-ke, izimo ezinjalo zivamile uma owesifazane osekude esemncane ezwa ukuthi ukhulelwe. Futhi uma ezithola esesimweni esinjalo, kuzodingeka ukuthi alandele izincomo ezithile ezizobekwa ngudokotela ukuze alondoloze impilo yakhe nokuphepha kwengane - okuwukudla okunempilo, ukudla okunempilo, ukuphumula okuvamile nokuningi, okuzobaluleka kakhulu kuleli sigaba, Kubandakanya izabelo ezizimele kuphela. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ungazitholi ngokweqile, uqaphele noma yikuphi ukuguqulwa okwenzeka emzimbeni, futhi lapho uhamba kancane futhi ngokushesha uthintane nodokotela.

Ukufingqa, umuntu angasho into eyodwa kuphela: ukukhulelwa kuyisimo esikhulu kakhulu somzimba wesifazane oneminyaka engu-50 ubudala, kodwa uma usenquma ngalesi sinyathelo, uma unesisindo "konke" nokuthi "ngenxa", kufanele uhlale kwindlela yokuphambana kakhulu, Qaphela ngokucophelela zonke izincomo zodokotela ongenawo futhi ukholelwa ukuthi konke kuzobe kulungile.