Umyeni Iziphuzo - yini okumele ngiyenze?

"Yini okufanele uyenze uma umyeni wakho na?" - umbuzo owabuzwa Izigidi zabesifazane futhi ngokuvamile inkolo abangavumelani impendulo kuyona. Phakathi naleso sikhathi, izinkinga zokusetshenziswa kabi kotshwala ukuthi unesifo hhayi kuphela umuntu ophuzayo yena, kodwa zonke izindawo ezisizungezile yakhe. Lapho umyeni wakhe ephuza, owesifazane ngokuvamile uthatha indima umsindisi: engazama kufundiswe umyeni wakhe futhi abe Sicela ukuthi unembeza wakhe, ukuze ugcine futhi ukudonsa benezimo ezahlukahlukene eziyinkimbinkimbi, ukumboza abuye esekele ababaphethe. Uma lokhu kungasizi, kuvela izinsongo, ukufihla imali ukukhahlela nabangane, uthembisa ukufaka lokufaka isehlukaniso. Kodwa umyeni wakhe ephuza njengakuqala. Ngalesi sikhathi owesifazane bangena inkinga ukuze sibangelwa isimo ukuthi izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo shayela codependency. Ukuhlupheka codependency, abantu bayakhohlwa ngokwabo, izidingo zabo, izinto abazithandayo, ezempilo, izingane. Yonke into subordinated inkinga eyodwa: ekulweni etshwaleni. Iphutha esemqoka kule qhinga ukuthi owesifazane izama ukungena kwakhe umyeni ukwazi ukuphuza, enganakile ukuthi ukuluthwa utshwala kuyisifo - ezidinga ukwelashwa afanelekayo efanayo, kanye nazo zonke ezinye izifo. Kuyinto Akungabazeki ubuyongithonya umuntu ukukhwehlela, ukube kwakudingeka ukucinana kwemigudu yokuphefumula? Kulokhu, wena okubiza udokotela kanye nesiguli abe uswidi nemiyalelo yakhe. Ukwelashwa ngokuluthwa utshwala - futhi uma udokotela - udokotela wezengqondo. Ngakho into yokuqala okumele uyenze uma iziphuzo umyeni: ubheke onguchwepheshe for izeluleko. Futhi udokotela sizochaza ukuthi isimo esiyinhloko ekwelapheni ukuluthwa utshwala isifiso utshwala ukuqeda kulo mkhuba. Lesi isimo eziyisisekelo futhi kudingekile umzabalazo yimpumelelo kokubhekana nesifo esibucayi njengoba utshwala. Phatha engekho noma ngasese ukuphuza engenakwenzeka. eduze Ngakho kumelwe asebenze ukushukumisa ukuphuza: funa ubuthakathaka, ukwazi ukumphoqa ukuba uyeke utshwala. Ngoba kufike umuntu mumbe, kungaba umsebenzi nomsebenzi wokuziphilisa, izinto inhlalakahle, enye i - umndeni nezingane, ngoba eyesithathu - impilo. Usizo ukuthola lo ugqozi uyakwazi Uchwepheshe - zengqondo. Into esemqoka - ukufeza kwemvume ophuzayo ukuvakashela udokotela wezengqondo futhi baqala ukwelashwa. Nokho, kufanele sikhumbule ukuthi ekwelapheni ukuluthwa utshwala - kuyinqubo eside futhi eziyinkimbinkimbi, ezidinga eziningi nokubheka kade, kogulayo nethimba lakhe. Narcologist inikeza ukwelashwa olunzulu ukuthi kuhlanganisa isicelo izidakamizwa iyadingeka futhi ukwelashwa kwengqondo. Lidinga usizo owelapha nomndeni ukuphuza: okokuqala, kuyokusiza ukuba kuvelwe ukuziphatha ilungile, kanti okwesibili, ukubhekana codependency.

Akufanele sibakhohlwe ukuthi abadala uhlushwa ukuphuza izingane zabo, zingabuye futhi ayesekelana. Kulokhu futhi kudingeka wezengqondo noma zengqondo. Ngamafuphi, kudingeka ukubhekana alkogolizmomo eziyinkimbinkimbi futhi njalo ngosizo ochwepheshe.

Uma loku kungentiwa, inkinga iyovele ibhebhetheke. Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuthi anosognosia oludakayo ukuhlupheka, noma ukungabi critical evaluation yena. Ngakho-ke, ngisho lesibili noma lesithathu esiteji zokusetshenziswa kabi kotshwala, kungase ukuphika ukuthi ukhona izinkinga futhi ukuqinisekisa izihlobo kangangokuthi wayengathi tie noma aphuze. Kodwa Ukufundiswa obscheaniya lawa nje amazwi, ngoba ukulawula indlela aziphatha ngayo ngaphandle abaphethwe utshwala kvadifitsirovannoy usizo ochet nzima.