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4 izizathu zokuthi kungani kufanele ususe igama elithi "thethelela" kusukela silulumagama yakho

Lapho uhamba phakathi ehhovisi boss yakho, ngokuvamile bayakhonza abanolaka, ngibona phambi kwakhe kuphela ukuqapha ngeso futhi umsindo iminwe kumakhi ikhompyutha. Wena ngokushesha ukusheshe uxolise omkhulu enkingeni yakhe.

Uhamba ibe ophithizelayo ongaphansi komhlaba isitimela phakathi rush ihora, futhi athwala endleleni amathrekhi sizungezwe abantu ekhungathekile futhi sikhathele siyingcuba. Ngokuvamile niphonsa isikhwama sami phansi futhi ubambe wesitimela engenhla ekulinganiseni isikhundla salo. Iqala uhambo olude ekhaya, futhi isandla sakho ubamba isandla omunye umgibeli. Nalapha futhi, kufanele axolise.

Siyaxolisa okungenani izikhathi 15 ngosuku, kungakhathaliseki kukhona izizathu lokhu noma cha. Ukuphoxeka phambi abanye abantu bavame musa sisinike ukuthula. Siyaxolisa babé isifo esingelapheki, kodwa kungani kufanele sikwenze?

Omunye umbono ovamile uwukuthi uchaza kahle impela ukusetshenziswa yethu ngokweqile igama elithi "uxolo", yilokhu kuba sengathi kudingeka sizenze kancane awayiphazamisi kwabanye futhi ukucabanga izikhathi eziningi ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukukhuluma. Siyaxolisa futhi sibonise ukuthobeka nokulangazelela sifuna ukugwema izingxabano.

Nazi ezinye izizathu zokuthi kungani kudingeka uhlaziye ini, nini, nokuthi kungani nathi sicele intethelelo yakhe, futhi kungani kungase kudingeke ususe igama elithi "uxolo" kusukela amagama awaziyo.

1. Lokhu Zibaqeda isithunzi izaba

Lapho siyaxolisa kalula futhi ngokuvamile, noma lapho kuba ungakhululekile izinto okusobala ukuthi aziyona iphutha lethu, hhayi ngaphansi kwamandla ethu noma abakufanelekeli okuxolisa, thina kuyoyona ngokuphelele inshokutsi yemagama ukunciphisa ngamandla ubuqotho bawo.

Iphuzu eliyinhloko ukuthi izaba njalo futhi kungenzeka ukumehlisa kukodwa nje kuyisenzo ngezilokotho. Futhi lapho kuzokwenzeka okuthile okubalulekile, amazwi akho ngeke babe namandla enele ukuthonya lowo muntu. Qaphela bese ugcine ukuba nesu yakho esenzakalweni ofanelekayo.

2. uyidelele ngokwakho kaningi kakhulu ezwakalisa ukuzisola

Abantu abaningi Hlobanisa ukuxolisa ngokuthobeka. Sivame ukucabanga ukuthi umuntu oqhoshayo angakufunda kuthuke othile futhi angatholi sijeziso ngaphandle kudingeka axolise. Nokho, kukhona into ezithakazelisayo lapho siyaxolisa ezimweni azizivuni lesi senzo. Kulezi zikhathi, sibonisa abantu bacabange ukuthi nibaluleke ukudlula thina. Lokhu kusho ukuthi yethu siqu ukuzethemba liphansi kakhulu.

Akukho lutho olungalungile ngokusho ngezwi kokuba uyoba nokuzethemba, ukuthi ngubani ongeyona imbangela amaphutha abanye. Uhlala umuntu ofanelwe ukuba waqonda alinganayo kulabo uhlangabezana. Ungasilulazi ngokwakho emphakathini. Esikhathini esizayo umuntu ubuso kuwe, ukulahla izaba futhi esikhundleni ukwabelana ukubukeka engazi.

3. Uzama alungise leso simo, kodwa akusho yokuxazulula izingxabano

Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi labo phakathi kwethu abanesimo ungathandi ngxabano, futhi uzokwenza yiliphi ezivuna ukugwema izimo ezibangela ukucindezeleka. Sasheshe ukuthatha "uxolo" ezoqeda ingxabano nentuthuko. Lokhu kuyadingeka ngezikhathi ezithile, kodwa kwezinye izimo sidinga usengenza umzamo zifezeke ukungqubuzana ekupheleni ngokusebenzisa inkhulumomphendvulwano.

Inkulumo yokuzisola nakho kungaba indlela ofuna ukulawula isimo. Sizosebenzisa ke ukugwema wenziwa nobe esifundvweni lesitsite obukhulu noma ukungqubuzana ukuziphatha engathandeki eyomunye umuntu. Kukangaki sizwa noma ngisho wathi: "? Ngathi Ngiyaxolisa, yini enye ngidinga". Lena indlela yakudala ukusebenzisa mnene futhi ngokuvamile bancishwa ukuxolisa okuqotho ukuze axazulule isimo ukungezwani.

4. ukuxolisa njalo kukwenze ungumuntu wosizi

Umuntu njalo exolisa, ikakhulukati emisebentini, maduze uyiswe isigaba sabantu muncu. Lokhu ukuziphatha kudala e nabantu abaseduze nawe umuzwa wokuthi zithambekele amaphutha, nabasebenzi uzizwa ukuphoxeka njalo.

Siyaxolisa empeleni kuthinte yakho siqu ukuzethemba nokuzihlonipha, ngokuba nezingxabano bezibona. Lapho ulwazimagama yakho kutawentiwa igama elithi "uxolo", noma uzoba lihawukele ngokuthize, kulapho lapho uyoba ngokwakho ukuyikholelwa futhi babe umuntu ungowosizi, zakompleksovannym ekugcineni.

Ukuze benze uhlelo lokusetshenziswa ukuziphatha lesifanele, zama ukungazivezi uzisole yini usuku lonke. Lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele ugweme Siyaxolisa, uma kukhona okungalungile ngempela. Thatha umthwalo futhi ngiyaxolisa ngaphandle kokusebenzisa igama elithi "uxolo".

Nazi ezinye amagama nemisho ezingakusiza nale:

  • "Ngiyaxolisa / mawungilandulele. '
  • "Ngiyabonga."
  • "Ngiyaxolisa ...."
  • "Ngeshwa ...".
  • "Kuyadabukisa."

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