Indlela yokunqoba indoda engu crisis yakhe

Kukhona amadoda abahlala unomphela isimo esibucayi okuqhubekayo: konke im hhayi ukuthi yonke into engenzi ivumelane nabo, ezinye zezinselele okuqinile emhlabeni. Kodwa izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zithi kukhona imikhawulo ethile yobudala, lapho ngempela eza ubudala Inkinga amadoda.

Inkinga Ubudala ezinganeni ngokuvamile kwenzeka ngonyaka owodwa noma iminyaka emibili, emithathu nenye eneminyaka eyisikhombisa. Futhi akukho delineation ecacile abafana namantombazana, kodwa zesikhashana yobudala abafana namantombazane izimo zinzima yilowo nalowo yobudala bakhe. +

Ngakho, isimo esibucayi lokuqala ezibucayi engu - isikhathi soshintsho yobudala (13-15 iminyaka).

Ixhumeke hhayi kuphela ukushintsha kwama-hormone emzimbeni intsha, kodwa futhi ne imizamo njalo ukuthola indawo yakhe emphakathini. Ngokuvamile, intsha abangalawuleki, banayo ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa, kulobu budala angagcina izidakamizwa noma utshwala umlutha. Abazali bangasiza ngokufundisa indodana yabo. Ukuze wenze lokhu kumelwe ukungena emhlabeni engaphakathi ingane ukwazi ukuthi unesithakazelo, thatha okuthandwa zomculo wakhe, imfashini, indlela abheka ngayo ukuphila. Iqiniso lokuthi abanye abantu abadala bacabanga okuxekethile kuyinto nje i search eyinkimbinkimbi uqobo.

Eyesibili yobudala crisis kuziwa iningi American, welula engamashumi amabili amathathu. Ngalesi ubudala, intsha sebeqala kakade ukwakha izinhlelo sina okuphila esikhathini esizayo, yebo, emaphusheni abo, zingabantu elidume, izingane uyabathanda, umka ubuhle babo nentshisekelo kanye sasendlini kakhulu ekuhlanganisweni, bona villa eduze nolwandle, kanye nezimoto ezibizayo. Lezi amaphupho uvame ukuqhelelana empunga ngokoqobo futhi ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Amanye anquma ukusishaya weqa izinyathelo ezimbalwa futhi ukushada ngalesi yobudala, ukuze kubonakale bona ngokwabo kanye nabanye usukhule kakhudlwana, inhloko wangempela umndeni.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, eduze engu-amathathu (othile kule nhlekelele yobudala kwenzeka eminyakeni 27-28) Ekugcineni kufika ukuqaphela ukuthi iphupho, ekugcineni kwahlaluka ukuthi umbhedo ephelele lokuthi ayengakhishwa imiselwe ukuza kweqiniso, futhi nakhu kufika izwi esisabekayo "neze." Le nsizwa uyazi ukuthi akasoze abe villa wakhe ukuthi ngeke ukwazi ukuba ngowokuqala kukho konke, futhi akubi usaziwayo. Umkhaya - lokhu ukuphila hackneyed, ukuntula imali, izinkinga njalo, hhayi ujabule ubuso obumamathekayo zokukhangisa yekhofi. Ezinye kulonyaka angene ukucindezeleka ezinzima, uqale ukuphuza kakhulu, ukuba nomakhwapheni ohlangothini. Kuzo zonke lezi uhulumeni angakwazi, uma kahle ukuhlola amandla abo futhi baqala ukuba ibeke imigomo efinyelelekayo.

Ngakho uhlobo ezifana nempilo kubangcono, ukuphila ifakwe, ihlose ukubeka indoda efundile, nge wazithoba ingafinyeleleki, kodwa sneaks abesabekayo kakhulu, obumbi eside kakhulu futhi kudumaza kakhulu. Ufika engu-37-39, lapho indoda uqala ukuyiqonda ngokuhlakanipha nje, kodwa ngokomzimba futhi abe nomuzwa wokuthi namanje ofayo. Imibimbi, ebohla hairline, ngezikhathi Rents ezempilo, kwesinye isikhathi kuyaye kuvuse potency, imali ngeke ngilethe le ukwaneliseka wangaphambili, ngifuna ukuthola umsebenzi ukuze umphefumulo. Madoda, ngenxa ukuphazamiseka kwama-hormone baba isihawu ngaphezulu, badinga ukuqonda, kodwa izingane kwentsha prickly kakhulu nonkosikazi benenkinga crisis wakhe. Bese ukophula wabo bonke abangane efanayo ebalulekile: ukudakwa, ukuzitika ngamanyala, okukhohlisa. ukuvukela umbuso kuphela manje abanye engenangqondo: omalume omdala bezama ukuthola embhedeni amantombazana amaningi abasha, ukuze bagomela ngokwabo. Futhi, kuza igagasi labantu abahlukanisayo, ngoba kuphela owesifazane ohlakaniphile kakhulu Ungaqonda uthethelele enjalo Antics womshado.

Njengoba ubona, ubudala Inkinga amadoda kuphazamisekile esifushane iminyaka impilo elokuthula. Kodwa owesifazane, ukwazi nokuqonda abathandekayo babo esimweni ukuze zibasize bakwazi ukubhekana nanoma iyiphi nezinkinga empilweni, ukuze kunqotshwe obumbi, gona nokuzisola.