Indlela ukuqeda kweletu

Yecala Psychology awukudla ngenxa yokuphatheka imicimbi, lapho asikwazanga kuze kube par, waletha umuntu, ngokuvamile - akuzange ekulindele. Ngokuvamile, ukuvela kwalesi umuzwa - ukuhlolwa litmus okuzivumelanisa emphakathini wesintu, ikhono ukuhlola izenzo zabo futhi ukuqhathanisa nabo okulindele. Njengoba naye futhi okulindelwe abanye. Phakathi isizathu. Thina bangaba necala, ukuthi, azizwe enecala uma sone othile, sekwephuzile, uma kumelwe sithwale imiphumela yokuthi "kukhona okungahambanga kahle". Inkinga iba yokuthi share sengonyama of abantu bavame ukuba baqikelele konke phezu: Umama ecasukile, ngakho mina ubuhlungu. Umyeni uthukuthele namuhla, ngakho isobho akwanele ezinhle ukulungele ukusola. Futhi ngisho nangaphezulu. Isimiso ngokuvamile ecacile.

Lokho ngokuvamile yemfanelo, futhi nalo - ukusola into akakwazi uyifake yandisa. Lokhu iwayini kungokwalabo esigabeni ka Neurotic, futhi udinga ayibulale. Kodwa ukwenza kanjalo, njengoba umthetho, kuba budisi khulu. I umkhuba lokusola wena wonke amaphutha lwesintu ihlala ngokuqinile kithi musa nje zinyamalale. Ngakho kanjani ukuqeda sinemizwa yecala?

1. Kufanele kucace kabanzi mayelana imigomo "ihhovisi" yakho. Uma lo mbuzo olula ukubangela izinkinga, ukudala uhlu lapho ngendlela ethile uphawu zonke lezo zenzo okuyinto avame ukubangela omunye iziqubu wecala noma lezo zikhathi, okwathi ngemva kwalokho iphutha kwenzeka ngokungazi, "Ngasekupheleni kuka umsebenzi", "Ningangibizi ngokuthi lapho wathembisa (a) "" ingxoxo nomama, "njll Wokubhala uhlu lwemibhalo, ungachitha izinsuku ezimbalwa ukuze uqonde kangcono ukuthi impande wecala.

2. Lapho uhlu usulungile, kungenzeka ukuqala ukuhlaziya. Uma kusekelwe isenzo ucishe eqondile futhi ecacile ezifana "Broke umyeni ifoni yakhe", "Ukhohlwe mayelana yokugubha usuku," kunzima kakhulu umuzwa evamile wecala ukubhekana okwenza umqondo ezimweni ezehlukile. Mayelana nabo - ngezansi. Nokho, uma ohlwini yakhiwa izincazelo ezifanayo, ezifana "Angikwazanga ukufeza lokho okulindelwe," "Into olimalayo," "umuzwa ezingacacile wecala ngemva namabhanisi kudliwa" - ke kuba yisikhathi ukuzindla ngendlela ukuqeda kweletu. Amazwi amorphous ngaphezulu futhi ungaqondakali, kuba ilapho zithola okwengeziwe "okungacaci futhi engenabulungisa" umuzwa, iwayini esesekulelo yakho ezijulile. Kodwa thina usuvele kulo muzi omaphakathi ukuze ikhambi.

3. Ngomuzwa unomphela wecala kufanele combated. Okokuqala ukuqonda lapho Eluma izicathulo. Iningi "icala njalo" wakhulela emkhayeni izimfuno eliphezulu. Izingane emikhayeni enjalo margin bengazinaki noma bengenandaba ngephutha, avame kuqhathaniswa ofunda baphumelela kakhudlwana, inzalo omakhelwane '. Futhi, mhlawumbe, into esemqoka: azifundi yokunqoba ukukhathazwa nokuthi, iwayini Nokho kancane njalo kutshalwa.

Indlela ukuqeda necala, uma waliyisa emndenini efana? Okokuqala, yazi ukuthi wena - ungakakwenzi ingane, futhi manje wena ukuzinqumela lapho bazizwe benecala, nalapho - akukho. Okwesibili, thatha ilungelo lakho ukuba kubi. Bonke abantu abayobe bephila okungalungile, kusukela kule (futhi lokhu iphuzu elibalulekile!) Akekho eseshonile, inhlekelele hhayi iphutha.

4. Lokhu kuqeqeshwa sokuzwa akunakwenzeka ukuba ibe nanoma imuphi umthelela esikhathini esifushane. Kwenze umkhuba ukugcina umkhondo wecala kanye umqondo Kuvezwe ukufaka esikhundleni komunye: "nginelungelo ukuba kubi Ngizithanda.". Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uma ngempela lo mkhuba uyoba njalo, uzophawula ukuthi isimo wayeke wakhonza njengephayona isigwedlo ukuzama ukuzibeka icala, futhi manje kubangele basabele ngokuhlukile.

5. Ake sibuyele labo ababhekene unaphakade cala ezejwayelekile nsuku zonke, kodwa ngokuphelele izimo umahluko (bheka para. 2). Ake ucabange ngako, uma ubanjwe on a manipulator ngodobo, na? "Darling, ungazange wathenga izimbali, ngiphatheke kabi," "intandokazi yami, uma uqhubeka ukupheka ngakho mina ngizobe isidlo sasemini nabangani esitolo sokudlela." Wena ukusetshenziswa. Indlela ukuqeda icala walolu hlobo? Thatha kalula yokuthi umuntu ngamunye akuyona nje Ibhekene nemizwa yethu, kodwa futhi unalo ilungelo bakhethe impendulo yabo siqu izenzo zakho, noma ukulimaza, intukuthelo, noma eminye imizwelo.

Yecala - i ukuzwa edabukisayo. Psychology usifundisa ukuba ubhekane nakho.