Kukhona nyangazonke kanjani: izingxoxo obuseduze indaba ephathwayo

amantombazane asemancane abaye kuphela uvele nezinwele yokuqala labia, bavame ukubuza ube nabangane abadala kunawe ukuthi ibukeke nyangazonke. Nokho, uma ungase uchaze ukuthi yini kuba kokuya esikhathini, kodwa ngokuvamile igcina indaba indaba yobuhlungu zasendle esiswini futhi ukubeka amabala, okuyinto balwela ibala izingubo.

Nakuba intombazane namanje akaqondi ukuthi esikhathini sokuthomba, indima Umhlahlandlela we umjikelezo wokuya esikhathini kufanele athathe umama noma ugogo. Chazela ingane yakho ukuthi akudingekile isizathu sokwethuka uma panties aluthole izilongotshane kwegazi. Mtshele ukuthi ebuntwaneni yayisiphelile, uqala ukuphila omdala lapho kunemithetho ezithile zokuziphatha.

Buza indodakazi yakho noma umzukulu Masizithathele sona zama ukuchaza kuwe ukuthi uzizwa ngalesi elithi "kanjani nyangazonke?": Ukuluma, ukunganaki, isithakazelo, noma ukuphoxeka. Uma intombazane iminyaka 12-13, ukuthi osesikhathini, ke izingxoxo okwengeziwe ngeke kukwenze ahlazeke. Kungaba ngcono uma ngokucacile bakhombise Tampon, kodwa hhayi ngempela, futhi ukunitha. Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuba ugcwalise isikhala nge ebomvu bese usitshele ukuthi ubukeka ngakho kakhulu igazi ezingase zivele izingubo zakhe.

Uma kungekho ngentambo ngakwesokunene noma ungazi ukuluka ngensonto, lapho bekhuluma mayelana nokuthi ukuvela nyangazonke, isithombe umagazini wezokwelapha Uyokwamukelwa kakhulu. Nikeza ezandleni indodakazi yami kubekwa futhi wasikisela ukuba kubhalwe entendeni phezulu. Intombazane kumele uzizwe isisa we yokuhlanzeka Ukuvikelwa izindlela, khona-ke nakanjani ngeke nganengwa ukucabanga mayelana ngosuku uma yena ulikhweze phezu panties.

kokuya esikhathini ezinkulu ihlala izinsuku ezingu-2-3. Qiniseka ukuthi usitshele indodakazi yakhe, ngakho engawuboni okwesabisa lapho ukubukeka ku ethoyilethi. Fundisa wakhe ukugeza ngamathuluzi akhethekile anakekele umzimba esesikhathini. Bonisa imithi ethile ubuhlungu uphuza, kungakanani futhi yini okufanele uyenze uma ningenzi. Intombazane kumele bakuqonde ukuthi udokotela kuphela uyakwazi ukusiza, hhayi iseluleko abangane ongenalwazi.

Ingane kumele hhayi kuphela ukwazi ukuthi avele ngenyanga, kodwa futhi ukuhlela bevela. I izitolo ukudayisa lezi amatafula, ngakho ngeke kube nzima ukufundisa indodakazi yakhe ukugcwalisa kubo. Uma ingane yakho namahloni ukubuza nabathengisi unesithakazelo umkhiqizo wawo, khona-ke adwebe ke. Ngesikhathi esifanayo tell me about amabili nesishiyagalombili nongqi impermanence yayo ngosuku. Intombazane kumele wazi ukuthi umjikelezo wokuya esikhathini uwubufakazi akuxhomekile kuphela isimo sempilo yakhe, kodwa futhi ku imvelo, ngakho ukubukeka ukopha lwesitho sangasese sowesifazane ezingama-21 emva ukuqala kokuya esikhathini - kunalokho kuyinsakavukela kuka ukuphambuka.

Inani igazi eliphumile esesikhathini ngokuvamile phakathi amahlanu eziyikhulu namashumi namamililitha, ngakho kanye ulwazi mayelana nendlela ukuphuma nyanga zonke, ingane yakho kudingeka ikwazi ukufunda ukuthi ukulahlekelwa ezincane ezinjalo ngokushesha uyalulama emzimbeni.

Qinisekisa ukukhuluma nendodakazi yakhe ngokuphila kwakhe ubulili kungenzeka ukuthi umataniswe nabobulili obuhlukile, ngakho obuseduze intsha engenakho okuhlangenwe nakho ngezinye izikhathi kuphele ukukhulelwa okungafunwa. , Qala ukukhuluma ngale ntombazane ukuze ugweme nemiphumela emibi ngendlela efanayo ngemva isisu inzalo.