Neziqubu nokuzibhaxabula - kuyindlela ekupheleleni noma masochism engokomoya?

umuntu ngamunye ungaba ukuhlola ngokwabo futhi izenzo zabo, ukuthola amaphutha ukuziphatha ezimweni ezithile nasekufuneni izisombululo. Nokho, kwezinye izimo, self-ukugxekwa liphenduka Yazi, eyisihlava umuntu waphakamisela enza engqondweni yakhe, kokusola ngokwabo ngezenzo zabo. Lesi simo sengqondo ukuze odokotela bengqondo yakhe ukubiza nokuzibhaxabula. Kuyini lokhu umuzwa, okushiwo ukuzibeka icala futhi kanjani ayibulale? Izimpendulo ufuna esihlokweni sethu.

Flagellation - okungenamsoco self-ukugxekwa

Psychological Rights Program, okuyinto ngokoqobo "udla" ngokwayo ngenxa ayilungile, ngokombono wakhe, ukuziphatha, ezwakalisa ngokucacile ukungayithandi kuye, ibizwa ngokuthi nokuzibhaxabula. Ngesikhathi esifanayo uyazi ukuthi iziphatha (maqondana ngokwayo efanayo) Akukuhle kakhulu, kodwa ngosizo ke ngeke benze lutho. Flagellation - iyona Ukunganeliseki okuphakade, ukuzithuthukisa wena ngokweqile ukugxekwa maqondana ngokwayo, esizibonakalisa impela ukulahlwa abukhali zika nezenzo. Man njalo ahlangabezane le wahlushwa unembeza, ukuhlupheka zokuziphatha, siphenduke ngesenzo sabo. Ukuziphatha okunjalo ubizwa nangokuthi samoedstvom.

Ukuhlanganyela nokuzibhaxabula, umuntu sinesandla esiqine kakhulu ngami ubuza njalo uthi, "Ingabe ngenza lokho?", "Kungani ngisho kanjalo?" "Mhlawumbe angizange liziphathe ngakho?" Nokunye. D. -Abrahams usola yena ngayinye yakhe iphutha, bezama ukuzithethelela emehlweni akhe. Ngesikhathi esifanayo uthola isono ubuhlungu, intukuthelo njalo amazwi nezenzo ezithile.

Njengoba kukhona neziqubu nokuzibhaxabula

A self-ukugxekwa okunempilo - lokhu kusho ukuthi umuntu akazange ibalwa amandla awo, ihlaziya isimo ngendlela elandelayo:

• Nginezinkinga nezinkinga eyisihambi kimi impahla;
• Ngazama ezimbi;
• Mina phansi yinkimbinkimbi inkinga;
• Ngaba okungalungile umqondo mayelana nalesi simo, nokunye. D.

Ukucabanga okunjalo kukusiza ukuba ngcono, ukushintsha inkambo imicimbi okwalandela, hhayi ukuphinda amaphutha anjalo esikhathini esizayo ukuze ulungise ukuziphatha kwabo.

Enye into, uma ukuzithiba ukugxekwa iba kukhathazeka njalo, okubangela neziqubu nokuzibhaxabula. Lokhu, isibonelo, imicabango ezilandelayo:

• Ngingumfana isiphukuphuku (CA);
• Ngingumfana esibi njengalesi;
• Anginayo intshisekelo (e);
• Angizange sifinyelele ekuphileni;
• Enginakho isisebenzi ezimbi (CA);
• konke lokhu yindaba yami ...

izitatimende ezingehli kahle eziphathelene bavame ukubanga ziwohloke elibukhali ezempilo, isimo ukwehla yesiphakamiso imicabango omubi namabala. Ngeshwa, le nkinga uhlushwa omningi yokuzingabaza, abantu ebucayi kakhulu bathambekele self-ukuthotshiswa futhi nokuzibhaxabula. Isimo sengqondo esinjalo ekuphileni aliholeli lutho oluhle. Lapho bezama ukufeza okuthile ekuphileni, sonke leso sikhathi besola yena amaphutha kancane, kuya kuba nzima nakakhulu kubantu abanjalo ukufeza neminye imiphumela. Ekugcineni, kunokuba uthole umuzwa wokwaneliseka bebhekana i Ukunganeliseki enkulu nakakhulu.

Flagellation - indlela uqinisekile ukuzithiba ekubhujisweni

Flagellation - liphinde self-incrimination, ngisho nalapho izenzo abangaphelele nezenzo umuntu nakho imizwa yecala, asitshela ukuthi yena noma yomunye umuntu unecala uyavuma izinsolo ikhomishana. Samoedstva zizathu:

• yokungazethembi;
• ukuzibona ngiyisiphukuphuku ;
• underestimation amandla abanawo amakhono;
• lithathelwe abampofu imvelo;
• Ukwesaba ngokoqobo.

umuntu Samobichuyuschy kungaletha ngokwakho "masochism esingokomoya"! - kudingeka ahlupheke, uzizwa eziphikisanayo, kuze i-self-ukubhujiswa ngamunye. Futhi bonke ukuphila kwakhe konke uyokusebenzisa ngokucindezeleka okukhulu nokuba nesizungu, okungaveza binges nokugula ke ezinzima.

onganqoba kanjani neziqubu nokuzibhaxabula?

Flagellation ... kanjani ukuqeda lokhu muzwa olimazayo?

Okokuqala, kufanele sizame ukuba sivumelanise ngokwabo ukuba ngemicabango emihle, ubone izwe ngemehlo lehlukile, ujabulela ngaselangeni njengoba liphuma, imfudumalo - konke ezungeze wena, ephakamisa, ngakho isimo semizwa yakho. Ukuxosha imicabango emibi, kwemizwelo engakhi futhi ayeke, ekugcineni, ukuze umlandu ngokwenzekileko zonke izono obulalayo. Zama, lamukele iqiniso lokuthi abantu ekahle ayiqhubeki iphila.

Noma yimuphi umuntu ofuna ukuba ngcono, namandla futhi kuphumelele kakhulu kunalokhu oyikho okwamanje. Into esemqoka - musa ivalile kuso. Ungakwazi ukuvula ku isidalwa kabani ukuphila kugcwele intukuthelo, nokunganeliseki akububonisi iyiphi injabulo. Khumbula ukuthi nokuzibhaxabula kuvimbela wakha imali eshisiwe, ukubona ukukhanya, okubangela ukuba sizulazule ebumnyameni kwengqondo yakhe.

umsebenzi okuqhubekayo ku ngokwakho - yisithiyo samoedstva

Shintsha umsebenzi inzondo futhi uthumele wonke amabutho kanye nemibono into ozithandayo. Ayivule esikhathini esiningi, kanjalo relegating kuya izikhathi zangokwasemuva zezinhlelo nokuzibhaxabula. Lona omunye esebenza kahle kakhulu Kunconywa ngodokotela izindlela ukuqeda ukuzibeka icala. Sisusa kusukela umphefumulo isifiso nokuzibhaxabula bese uzithande, wena kudingeka nigxilise ukuzihlonipha wena, uzenza njengabakufanelekelayo umuntu kangangoba ayisekho kuyoba imbangela self-mbisana nokugxekwa. Sebenza wena, ukuthuthukisa, kanjalo zakha isimiso indlela eya empumelelweni, okuyinto ngeke sibe nesikhathi introspection.

Nokuzibhaxabula kuyokwenzeka lapho ungakwazi uzithanda wena. Yima phambi kwesibuko, smile bese uthi: "Mina ngiyindlela (th) eqinile (th), enhle (aq) futhi kuphumelele (th)! Mina uzophumelela! "Phinda lamagama njalo ekuseni. Futhi believe me, ngempela uqala ukuthola zonke. Khuthaza futhi sidumise wena. Futhi ngeke ulahlekelwe ukholo. injabulo yakho nenhlalakahle - ezandleni zakho.

Ukuze uphendule lo mbuzo: "nokuzibhaxabula - liyini 'kudingekile ukuchaza ukuthi yini umthelela elinako ukuphila kwakho. Uma samoedstva ukuhlaselwa ukusiza uba kuphumelele kakhulu futhi eqoqwe umuntu - kungani akabahluphi ukwazi ngokusebenza okuhle? Nokho, uma ukugxekwa okunjalo ebhubhisa ukuphila kwakho, ukwakha esitebeleni yokuzingabaza - uzokwenza konke okusemandleni akhe ukuze saxosha lo muzwa okubhubhisa umphefumulo wakhe, ngaphandle kwalokho imiphumela ingase ibe engelapheki.