Umndeni Traditional: khuyini ezokwenzeka esikhathini esizayo?

Kuyini emndenini ovamile namuhla? Cishe, umbuzo onjalo ngeke kube lusizo engamashumi amabili edlule. Kungani ihlala manje akakubangeli ngisho ukumangala ebusweni kwabanye? Ake siphenye.

Okokuqala, kuyiqiniso ukwazi ukuthi izimpendulo zabantu abacelwa lo mbuzo kwenzakala ezahlukene. Ake sibheke amagama wokufunda welithi "umndeni". Incazelo uya okuthile okunjengokuthi: "Iqembu walithanda (ngegazi noma ibhalwe) umndeni, ezixhunywe indawo okuhlalwa ezivamile futhi ukusondelana ngokomzwelo."

Ngaphezu kwalokho, siqaphela ukuthi lokhu kwelashwa lutho egcizelelwa okuthiwa uxhumano ngokomzwelo, okungukuthi, uthando. Ngiyavuma, uma uyindodana washada futhi usehlale nabazali bakhe, akusho ukuthi uyekile ube yilungu lomndeni wawo. Phela, nabo basuke uthando nomunye namanje. Nokho, kwabonakala izibopho ezithile umkakhe, ngenxa yokuthi wayehlukile - umndeni wakhe. Ngakho, kuvela ukuthi unabo amabili?

umndeni Traditional okwamanje kuhlanganisa inyunyana kowesilisa kusiya kowesifazana, okwaphumela inzalo ivela.

Ake sixoxe ngendlela konke kuvela. Okokuqala, kukhona umuzwa ukuthi sihlanganise abantu ababili. Ukuqala ukuphila ukuphila ndawonye, kukhona into okuthiwa ukuphila ukuthi ngezindlela eziningi zingaphazamisa isethulo kamnandi bendoda nomfazi ukuze baphile ndawonye. Phela, akumangalisi kukhona saga ithi: "isikebhe Umkhaya ikhubazekile ngokumelene ukuphila". Akuwona wonke umuntu sikulungele izinsizi ezinjalo, ngoba kuvela ukuthi uthando lulodwa alwanele ngoba umndeni. Ngo amafilimu American, lapho kukhona saleli lomshado, athi isifungo "usizi futhi injabulo, nasekuguleni futhi impilo ..." njll Ngamanye amazwi, abantu kuyoba nomunye kuze kube isikhathi lapho umuntu ecabanga ukuthi uye 'ngokwanele ". Bese umndeni yendabuko usuphothuliwe evame kakhulu namuhla ngesehlukaniso. Qaphela ukuthi esikhathini esidlule iphesenti labantu abahlukanisayo imishado babe esivuna yokugcina. Okwamanje, inani imindeni eziphukile liyakhuphuka.

Ngokuvamile, okwenzekayo kubonisa ukuthi bonke abantu ezahlukene wacabanga umndeni wakhe esikhathini esizayo. Othile uyaphupha kwenkosana, omunye umyeni ocebile nezicebi, othile umnikazi nezingane eziningi. Kodwa akubona bonke abantu uyaqonda ukuthi incazelo umndeni ngamunye kumelwe aqale ngokuphathana ngothando nangenhlonipho. Futhi leyo mizwa kukhona priori mutual. Life, ngeshwa, kuyinto amafu elikhanyayo kakhulu futhi ezimibalabala iphupho abafana namantombazane amaningi. Kubalulekile ukuba singaweli ke futhi uthole sengqondo esiqondile, ngisho e izinto kancane nsuku zonke.

Umkhuba - waba namandla amakhulu. Thina ukujwayela ekuboneni into efanayo, ngoba akusho kithi umxhwele. Ukuze ukwazi upende elikhanyayo imibala ingakuvumeli ukucabangela nokuqhwandela - kuyikhono ukuthi kudingeka afunde.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, kukhona izinkinga eziningi ngokuvamile iholela isehlukaniso. Bona bangayiqonda ubudlelwane obufanele kanye izinkinga zezenhlalo.

odokotela bengqondo abaningi bathi umndeni yendabuko engaphansi ukuthuthukiswa ngokushesha umphakathi kanye nekwenyusa linani lalabo nezinkinga nezilingo iqala ukulahlekelwa ikhono ulalele uzwe enye inhlangano, othandekayo. Ngeshwa, sivamile awunaso isikhathi esanele nemindeni kakhulu, ngoba sekuseduze kangaka, ungakwazi linda, kukhona izinto ezibaluleke kakhudlwana.

Kukhona Isiqubulo omkhulu odumile Scarlett O'Hara: "ngiyobe sengiqala ukucabanga ngokuqomisana ke kusasa." Kodwa "kusasa" nalo muntu bangalokothi bafike. Khumbula ukuthi bayahloniphana nokuqonda kuzosiza kabusha labo ubuhlobo ubudala, uma ungenayo owabona league yakho. Nokho, njengoba kufanele kuphawulwe abahlakaniphileyo, umndeni - kungcono umsebenzi. Akekho wathi kuyoba lula. Nokho, isimo sethu esingokomzwelo kuyazuzisa yini ngempela. Phela, elula zephuke kuka ukuzama ukuxhuma ezinye izindikimba frayed. Dala ngoyisiwula kusinda kunakho ababhubhise. Ngakho ake ungacingi izindlela ezilula. Kuyinto - phetho ababuthakathaka.