Uthando - kulula! (Ingxenye 1)

"Ngiyakuthanda." ibinzana Obalulekile. Kulula kakhulu ithi "ngiyisilima!" Kunokuthembela bayavuma othile. Esimweni sokuqala kukhona namazwi aveza iqiniso, nobuwula zabo, okwesibili - yemfanelo onikezwe uqobo futhi phezu umlingani. Ngamunye otshala imali welithi "uthando" wakhe, kuphela yena uyazazi incazelo. Kodwa okushiwo uyefana. Kasibili wonke umuntu uyayithanda. Kepha thandani ngezindlela ezahlukene. Ubudlelwano indoda-owesifazane ezimweni eziningi, kukhona sinye siyafanana. passion okunodlame isigamu yayo yesibili, esakhiwa ngo idealization lokhu. Man-onothando, akazange uphawule lutho kodwa into simthande yakhe. Kodwa-ke ngeshwa, lokhu akuthathwa uthando. Kuyinto umbono okwandile njengoba falling in love. Zonke wazibonela ukuthi okwamanje. Isikhathi lapho kubonakala sengathi emhlabeni kukhona lutho ngaphandle kwakhe (kuye). Futhi zonke ekuphileni kungaphansi ngokubhekisele kumuntu oyedwa kuphela. Falling in love - ke Iwumbono okuvezwa isithombe umlingani. Kulesi sigaba, kukhona idealization imizwa, imizwelo nezenzo. Konke kubonakala kunengqondo futhi emuhle. Futhi kungani zijabulise engapheli. Kukhona into okuthiwa "umnikelo." Kanjalo. Ngo falling in love esiteji, bobabili abalingani ukwenza njenge aphethe isipho. Futhi sicabanga yokuthi ngokuya kwesimilo banal, zibabaza nomunye. Kodwa, ngeshwa, isigaba of falling in love eyesikhashana. Uthatha kwezinsuku ezimbalwa ukuze ngemva kweminyaka embalwa. isikhathi Nastaot sika, kubahlanganyeli umdlalo, onesihloko esithi "Uthando", ukususa buso babo. Iqiniso liwukuthi ngesikhathi uthando, bobabili abalingani ozama ayoziveza kuthabathela ecaleni engcono. Lona impendulo eyodwa idealization lomunye. Ungasondela isifaniso nezilwane - ngenkathi yokukhwelana, abaningi babo ayaqala ukuba sibonise izimfanelo zabo engcono (isib, lamaphigaga besilisa fluff tail yakhe enhle ukukhombisa insikazi, okuyinto zinhle). Kunjalo kubantu. Thanda noma imikhawulo, noma esiholela uthando. Ngeshwa, ukugcwaliseka kwalokhu kushintsha zonke ukuqhutshwa ehlukile. Ukubona ukuthi isikhathi injabulo engapheli nenjabulo ndawonye iphelile. Ukubona ukuthi phambi kwakho akuyona umuntu ofanayo wayekhona kuqala. Ukuthatheka uphela lapho oyedwa (noma kokubili) enquma ukukhombisa self bakhe beqiniso, ukuqiniseka abanye. Noma ukuhlola iqiniso izinzwa, noma ukuphula ubuhlobo. Kulesigaba ukungqubuzana iqala. Futhi njengoba ecacile ekuqondeni kwabo indinganiso, futhi intrapersonal (kungani ngenza lokhu? Ingabe ngimthanda (wakhe), ngempela). izingxabano ngokuvamile aba ubunjalo puerility. Ngo ngamunye wethu ehlezi ngokujulile "ubuhlungu ingane" ngubani kuphela uyazi ukuthi uqhubeka ethi: "Angifuni! Angikwazi! Ngeke! Kufanele kube! Kangiyikunika! Wami! ". Kunzima kakhulu ukuba ikwazi ngokwabo amaza yezingane, bezama ukumisa ubudlelwane evamile. Eqinisweni ezihlekisayo, lapho owesilisa nowesifazane ngokwabo ngaphezulu njengoba izingane, uzozala lo mntwana, ukunqoba izisusa zabo "kobuntwana" ekubeni 'abadala. "

Akubalulekile ukuqonda ukungqubuzana njengoba into evamile. Lona nje izaba. Vele ithuluzi ukuhlonza izimbangela kweqiniso. Kunoma yikuphi ukushayisana udinga ukuba ukwazi ukuthola umugqa omncane, futhi ungabeki isitha sakho, kodwa zama ukuba uzazi kahle wena. Ukuze uqonde ukuthi lalifuna ukuba lengxabano. Vele ukuqonda ngokwabo. Uthando - lokhu akulona ukwamukela izipho neminikelo. Ukunika ngokwakho komunye umuntu. Uthando - kungcono umsebenzi. Ngokuyinhloko ngokwabo. Manje, umqondo uthando yawenza. Kusukela umsakazo, i-TV, sivela esitaladini, kusukela yokuxhumana kufinyelele kithi: "Ngiyakuthanda, uthando, uthando». Isikhathi kususa okushiwo imiqondo. Into kuphela ukuthi izohlala injalo - ethi "I love you" kudingeka siqiniseke imizwa yakhe yedwa, ngoba kusukela ngomzuzu le nkulumo uyezwakala, esigabeni TWO iqala. Amanga mayelana uthando - sibi kokumane nje uthando. Loving umuntu ukuba uthi "Angiyithandi", ngemva ayemethemba futhi bakholwa uthando, agwaze sibi emhlane. Okuningi nzima.

Abaningi bakholelwa inqaba uthando - umndeni nomshado. Ngokubona kwami, liphinde okungenangqondo njengoba kumelwe ibhekwe njengezwe lwesivikelo ukholo kuNkulunkulu - esontweni. Uthando ukukhukhuleka okholweni lweqiniso, kumele kuvele umphefumulo. Ngokusuka enhliziyweni. Akunakwenzeka ukuba sihlanganise ubulili, ngokuvumelana yasendlini futhi uthando emshadweni. ubandlululo nomfazi oyedwa azibonakali. Imibhangqwana eminingi umfelandawonye lothando enkundleni. Futhi izibalo zibonisa ukuthi ababaningi abantu onganqoba ushintsho isigaba kokuba uthandana uthando. Ukuqaphela iwusizo komunye nomunye, nokuqaphela uthando futhi bayakulangazelela lokhu ndoda, nokuqaphela yokuthi lena umuntu ongamthululela (futhi kufanele) ukuchitha impilo yabo yonke - lungesinye sezisusa ambalwa emshadweni. Futhi akuyona falling in love.

Umbuzo lothando kunzima ukuxoxa, ngoba wonke umuntu ahlangabezane ngokuhlukile. Angikho uzama othile ugqozi umbono wakho. Kodwa uma isihloko yami uzokwenza ucabanga ngisho nalokho okuyoba - ngiyojabula kakhulu. Kuzoqhutshwa ...