Iyashesha futhi iletha. Kuyini futhi ukuthuthukisa kanjani wena?

Isikhathi esining impela sisebenzisa igama elithi "iletha" lapho sikhuluma. Kuyini kusukela iphuzu ngokwengqondo umbono kunalokhu oyikho alandisa ejwayelekile omunye? Manje zama ukuqonda migomo, kanye ukubazi ngezibonelo yangempela. Mhlawumbe omunye kuzovula le mfanelo ngokwabo noma abathandekayo babo.

Le mfundiso eyasungulwa ethi jikelele le ncazelo,

ukuziphatha okuzenzekelayo kusho ukuthi umuntu owenza kuphela lokho afuna ngesikhathi esithile, futhi akukho okunye. Lena ejwayelekile kwezilwane nezingane, yingakho sonke zibabaza nalabo nabanye. Njengoba bekhula, lokhu "nokucija 'nokuziphatha besikhashana lihambe, endaweni yayo ifika ukuhlela phambili, kuhanjiswa isheduli (yakhe noma yomunye umuntu), futhi lokhu, ngokuvumelana abezenhlalakahle, ubhubhisa thina njengabantu ngabanye. Baqhathanisa ukushabalala iletha nge le psychopathology zokuphila kwansuku zonke, futhi leli gama lisetshenziswa lapha hhayi ngomqondo wezokwelapha, kodwa ngaphezulu senhlalo. Yingakho kubalulekile eminyakeni yakhe ukuvuthwa, "khumbula," njengoba kanye nengane, uma imizwa yakho nezenzo ezaholela iletha. Yayiyini isibonisi eqondile kakhulu futhi olunembile wena izwe lakho ongaphakathi, hhayi ongcoliswe izimiso zomphakathi.

Kanjani futhi kungani akhipha iletha

Esemncane kakhulu, abazali bethu kanye enkulisa othisha kusifundisani okuhle nokubi. Sinqabela ngasekupheleni, iphalishi abangondlekile, icansi yabo futhi ukugqoka izinto ezithile acabanga ukuthi ngokuvamile ungathandi. Kulokhu, ukungalaleli kancane on the ingxenye ingane kakhulu ijeziswe, futhi lokhu, esikhundleni salokho, kuholela ukuthuthukiswa yokwesaba. Lokhu kwesaba eyeka nathi ukuthuthukiswa ungubani lo beqiniso, ngenxa yokuthi ukuthi amabhlogo iletha. Kuyini ababi, nokuthi ngale ndlela awukwazi bakhulise izingane, odokotela baye bafunda akunjalo kudala. Nokho, le nkinga, kukhona umehluko wemisindo nemiqondo yamagama amaningi, njengoba ngamunye wethu - eyingxenye yomphakathi lapho imithetho kanye nezimiso kwandile, futhi uma ngamunye bazocula bethanda yakhe kungokomzuzwana, izwe engaya uyahlanya. Nokho, lokhu kuyinto ingxoxo zefilosofi, futhi manje sizozama kube nenkululeko ethe xaxa kancane, zivela etholakalayo.

Beka uhlaka emphakathini

Ake uthi nje ukucabanga ukuthi wonke ukuvinjelwa, okuyinto ilingise engqondweni wonke umuntu, bekwenziwa eseyingane. Manje - a esezikhulile umuntu ngokugcwele, ngakho-ke, ngabo ungakwazi ukukhohlwa ngokuphepha. Sikhathazekile ukuthi uzokutshela abanye uma sizothatha isenzo esithile, njengoba ingane esasiyihambisela eyasongela kokwesaba ngaba namahloni, ngenxa okuyinto ivinjelwe iletha. Kuyini lokhu uma hhayi zokugula, okuyinto kusivimbela ophilayo? Ngokuqiniseka okuphelele singasho ukuthi ngokuphelele bonke abantu obakhathalelayo okwenzayo futhi ukuthi baziphathe kanjani. Noma yimuphi ubuwula uzibophezele nguwe endaweni yomphakathi, vele uvule inothi lakho emfushane, kodwa ngaphakathi amaminithi konke lokhu, futhi ikakhulukazi, ziyolibaleka. Ngakho-ke liziphathe ngokukhululekile, awugcini ebuntwaneni, khumbula ukuthi siphila kanye kuphela.

Ukufunda ukuba khulula

Kutfutfukiswa iletha lapho usukhulile kungathatha indawo ngezindlela ezihlukahlukene, futhi kuncike izici psyche yakho. Othile ngokwakho ngokufunda izinto, cabanga neqiniso lokuthi wayeseholela isivele mahhala, futhi ekugcineni ukwenza into ngaphambilini akazange alinge. Abanye abantu kungenzeka kungabi njengoba enamandla, futhi zidinga usizo lochwepheshe ukuze uvule. Kunoma yikuphi, kumelwe sikhumbule ukuthi kukhona iletha we equlekile, le iletha ukwazi nokuziphatha nokuguqulwa. Ithemu ngayinye okwalandela kulandela kusukela osekushiwo, ngakho-ke, ukulungisa yonke imicabango yakho, avume ukuba wena, uba umuntu ohlukile. Futhi, cishe, impilo yakho yonke uyoshintshwa, futhi mhlawumbe kuzoshintsha ngokuphelele.