Ukwelashwa engqondweni yethu

yokwelapha yezengqondo - ingenye yezindlela ethandwa kakhulu futhi kuphumelele, saliphi lula lithathelwe iklayenti - kokubili komphakathi kanye siqu - ngokushintsha izinkolelo zomuntu siqu letivimbela Kulesi lithathelwe. Yiqiniso, ukusetshenziswa indlela psychotherapeutic kudinga udokotela okuningi izithukuthuku, kodwa cishe njalo kuletha impumelelo.

yokwelapha yezengqondo yasungulwa ekuqaleni kwekhulu lama-20 u-Aroni Beck. Lo muntu babekholelwa ukuthi abaningi ezinkingeni ezingokwengqondo iklayenti ezingase ziphakame ngenxa yokuthi kuzenza iziphetho ezingafanele esonta isithombe kweqiniso emhlabeni. Isizathu salokhu - lokho okubizwa ngokuthi "imicabango okuzenzakalelayo" - imicabango ezenzeka abantu lapho ebheka lesi simo waba nayo ngabangane. Futhi kungabangela ukuziphatha okungalungile.

Ngenxa yalokho lezi "imicabango okuzenzakalelayo" amaphethini okungajwayelekile zingase zimiswe kubantu abaningi. amathuba Iningi kumiswa yabo ebuntwaneni, futhi kwaba sekukaningi abo ukuze abhubhise.

Inhloso bezingelwa yokwelapha engqondweni yethu - kusiza ukususa kwenkolelo engaguqukiyo, ukubuka ukufunda ukuhlaziywa efanele isimo, incazelo incazelo yabo etimeni letehlukene nezimbangela zayo.

Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo, usebenzisa indlela engqondweni yethu, siba isikhathi eside ukufunda isiguli, ukuze amsize ukubabulala izinkolelo okungalungile, ukuze uqonde ukuthi lokhu umuntu ecabanga, kungani futhi kanjani uthando lwakhe lokuhlola izinkolelo ezinjalo.

Ukuze uqonde kangcono okushiwo yokwelapha engqondweni yethu, kuhle ukufunda okungenani ngesibonelo esisodwa sendlela indlela yebuhlakani Psychology kungenza ukuphila kube lula kumuntu.

Ake sithi izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo kuziwa umuntu uhlushwa bekhanda ukuthi bavele lapho besosizini imizwa ethile. Ukuze amsize, udokotela ucela iklayenti sigcine idayari enemininingwane - lokho ayekwenza ukuthi ngesikhathi esifanayo uzizwe ngasiphi iphuzu kwakukhona ikhanda. Isikhathi more njengabaningi idayari, kuba lula ukuqonda, ngoba lokho isiguli ikhanda, futhi amsize.

Ake sithi iklayenti Kuyathakazelisa, kodwa umsebenzi ngempela esiyinselele lapho uzama ukwenza "lemihle kakhulu". Okuhlangenwe Nakho Nezingxoxo voltage ngesikhatsi operation usuyezwakala, futhi uma umsebenzi ayikahlanganiswa waphenduka enze kahle, nakhu - oqinile ikhanda. Nokho, esimweni esinjalo, uma boss uzwakalise ukunganeliseki umsebenzi owawenziwa, iklayenti kungenziwa kuphela ukuzwelana.

Ngakho, kusukela okufakwe idayari nesineke kungaqondakala ukuthi lawa imizwa (isipiliyoni ekufezeni umsebenzi ngesikhathi ukwehluleka umsebenzi ukukhungatheka, ihlazo babulawa ngesikhathi egweba amakhanda) kumzwise ikhanda. Indlela ukumsiza? Okokuqala kufanele sisebenze kanzima ukuze kuqedwe "eziyinkimbinkimbi isisebenzi kakhulu." Ukuzibophezela ubuhle - lokho kulungile, kodwa emhlabeni efanayo kufanele kube umkhawulo. Uma ekahle imfuno yekani ukuba ebaluleke kakhulu isiguli, isimo sakhe saba ngcono kakhulu. It uhlala kuphela ukuqeda umqondo ngokweqile duty iklayenti ayisekho uhlushwa ihlazo, ukuzwa Ukuthuka abakhulu.

Eqinisweni, musa ukufeza zonke ngenhla echazwe ngakho nje futhi kuyoba lula ukuba wenze lokhu emsebenzini omusha.

Kodwa, isimo ngeshwa, kukhona ezisebenzayo ngempela lapho ukwelashwa engqondweni yethu ine cishe ayikho imiphumela, kanye nokwelashwa uthembisa sidonsa isikhathi eside. Yini zokusebenza kwengqondo ngaleso sikhathi? Ngo wezifo zengqondo, kukhona esifana engqondweni yethu ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe indlela ephumelela kakhudlwana, kodwa futhi baqinisa.

le ndlela - ukwelashwa kwengqondo ngasocansini, ngesisekelo okuyinto kukhona ingqondo. Phakathi ukwelashwa, udokotela ubeka nesineke kusimo okuyiluthayo wokuba lapho ikhasimende awukwazi ukuthatha noma yisiphi isinyathelo. Udokotela wengqondo emabintana lamafisha nekucaciseleka kwenza isiphakamiso. Njengomthetho, umuntu uyakhuthazeka lapho sibaningi, lithi lapho evuka, kuyodingeka ukuba kususwe yakhe ukugula / yokwesaba / ubudlova / ukungaqiniseki.

ukuvala abacaphuni abangobe ngasocansini isetshenziswa izinkinga eziningi ezingokwengqondo kanye zokugula emzimbeni.