Umama. Kungcono kunini ukuzala futhi kungani?

Umbuzo othi "kuneminyaka engcono ukubeletha" inesithakazelo kwabaningi. Izingxoxo ziphethwe ngalolu daba ngaso sonke isikhathi. Imibono odokotela ayinangqondo. Abanye bathi kungcono ukubeletha eneminyaka engaba ngu-25, abanye bathi ubudala obuhle kakhulu yiminyaka engu-19-20, kuyilapho abanye, ngokusekelwe ekuhlangenwe nakho kwabo, bakholelwa ukuthi owesifazane oneminyaka engu-30 ubudala angabethwala futhi abelethe ingane enempilo. Ake sizame ukuqonda lo mbuzo.

Futhi ukuphendula, kungcono nini ukubeletha, sizoqala ingxoxo yamathambo wesifazane. Umzimba wesifazane ukhula ngokushesha. Uma kufika esikhathini, angase akhulelwe. Ngokujwayelekile ukuya esikhathini sokuqala emantombazaneni kuqala eneminyaka engu-12. Kodwa lesi sizukulwane asifanelekile kumama. Kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi umzimba wentombazane ukhula kuze kube ngu-18-19 iminyaka (kuye ngokuthi izici zomuntu ngamunye). Yebo, emva kokuqala kokuya esikhathini, angakhulelwa. Kodwa kuyoba nzima ukuthwala, ukubeletha nokuphumula esikhathini sokuhamba kwesikhathi . Yebo, futhi ingqondo yengane ingakakulungeli ukuzala.

Iyiphi iminyaka engcono kakhulu yokuhlela ukukhulelwa?

Ukuzalwa kokuqala nokukhulelwa kunzima kunoma yimuphi owesifazane. Kubalulekile ukuthi umzimba wesifazane awuvuthi nje ukuzala umntwana, kodwa futhi ube nempilo enhle kakhulu. Ngemuva kokuphela kwamasonto ama-40 okukhulelwa owesifazane akashintshi nje ngaphandle, kepha futhi ngaphakathi. Umzimba wakhe uphinde wakhiwe kabusha, futhi ezinye izinqubo zishintsha umsebenzi wazo ojwayelekile. Isibonelo, owesifazane okhulelwe ukwandisa inani legazi, okuholela emsebenzini owandayo we-muscle wenhliziyo. Lowo enenhliziyo yakhe igula ukuzibeka engozini enkulu.

Ngakho-ke, kungakanani iminyaka engcono ukuzala ukuba abe umama ojabulayo wengane enempilo? Umnyaka wesifazane wokubeletha ukhulu khulu. Lihlala kusukela ekukhuleni kokuqala kokuya esikhathini kuze kube sekuqaliseni ukuphuma esikhathini. Kubonakala sengathi kunesikhathi esanele, nombuzo, ukuthi kuneminyaka engcono kangakanani ukuzala, akufanelekile. Kodwa-ke, ungazitholi phansi, okuyiminyaka eminingi egcinwe kuyo futhi akufanele ugijimele. Abesifazane abaningi bakhetha imisebenzi yomama. Nokho, kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi ukuzalwa kokuqala, isibonelo, owesifazane oneminyaka engu-35 ubudala akahlali ephumelele njalo. Kuyoba nzima kuye ukuthwala, nokubeletha. Yebo, futhi ukukhulelwa ku-35 kunzima. Ikakhulukazi, uma ngaphambi kwalesi sikhathi owesifazane wakhipha isisu, waphatha izifo ezibucayi zesifo somzimba, futhi wasebenzisa amaphilisi okuvimbela ukukhulelwa isikhathi eside. Ngendlela, izifo zabesifazane ziba buthakathaka kakhulu izitho zokuzala, zinciphisa umsebenzi wazo futhi zivame ukuholela ekungeneni. Ngaphezu kwalokho, owesifazane ongazange abelethe ngaphambi kweminyaka engama-35 unengozi yokukhulelwa ingane enezifo nokukhubazeka.

Odokotela baphendula ngokungazelelwe lo mbuzo, ukuthi kungcono kangakanani ukuzala, futhi ekuboneni kwabo banamathela: kusuka ku-19 kuya ku-30. Futhi, ekuqaleni, kuhle kakhulu. Kungani? Okokuqala, owesifazane uphethe ulwazi lwezofuzo eqanda lakhe. Eminyakeni edlule, kanye nethonya lendlela yokuphila, ukudla, imikhuba kanye nezici zangaphandle, lolu lwazi luyasuswa futhi luhanjiswa. Okwesibili, owesifazane ongakaze abelethe izizathu ezehlukene eminyakeni engama-30-35, kancane kancane uyeka ukuzimisela ukuba ngumama. Imizwa yakhe yomama iphela nje. Ngokuvamile, kuze kube yileli minyaka, usuvele wakha ngokugcwele, wakha umsebenzi, futhi indawo yengane empilweni yakhe (okungesiyo embi) ayikho. Okwesithathu, emva kwabesifazane abangu-30 bangase bahlupheke ngezifo ezihlukahlukene zokugula. Ngokuvamile zikhona izinkinga ngama-ovari, isisu, ezinye izitho eziphethwe ukukhulelwa kanye nendlela ejwayelekile yokukhulelwa.

Abesifazane abaningi, kuyilapho becabanga ukuthi kungcono kangakanani ukubeletha, futhi bahlehlise umama, baziveze ukuthi ngeke babone ukuthi kusho ukuthini izingane. Isijeziso esesabekayo ngobulili obuhle futhi asikho. Emva kwakho konke, incazelo yokuphila iqhubeka. Imvelo inike lona wesifazane isipho esinjalo - ukunikeza impilo nokuqhubeka nomndeni. Kungenzeka yini ngokuzithandela ukuyilahle?