Usakhula crisis nendlela yokubhekana nalesi?

Intsha kufanele isici esikhethekile - zivame ukuba uthemba amazwi. Bakhetha ukuthumelelana ukuhlola konke bebodwa, okuyinto ngezinye izikhathi kube nemiphumela ngeshwa. Uma ingane ubhekene nenhlekelele yobusha, lapho Iphathelene ontanga yabo, futhi abazali abanawo amandla wokulawula izenzo zakhe. Iningi labantu abasha ungalaleli abantu asebebadala, futhi ngokuvamile naphezu ukwenza konke. Ngezinye izikhathi abadala alazi ngalokho ingane yabo umatasa.

Izibalo kuhle kabi ukuthi izingane eziningi ezineminyaka engu-12 kuya kwengu-15 bayafa ngenxa ekwakheni, bazithola ngaphansi amasondo izimoto noma ominzayo. Avame ukugibela ophahleni izitimela, ukunamathela amabhasi, bagxume besuka emazwini ukuphakama, ukwenza izinto ukuqubuka ku inselele. izenzo Ukusheshe nezinqumo kungathinta phetho ikusasa ingane, yingakho abazali kubaluleke kakhulu hhayi ukuba miss isikhashana nezingokomzwelo zokuthomba. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isimo esibucayi komutjha ngokuvamile kuhambisana nothando kuqala ngokuvamile libhekene imizwelo nangenxa ukuzwela. Imizwa enjalo enamandla nobungqabavu ngokuvamile iholela izehlakalo ukuzibulala (lapho uthando kuvela ukuthi ubuhlobo non-okuhambisanayo, noma uma ngenxa yesizathu esithile wayeka). Ngu abadala abathanda zisencane - into yesikhashana, kodwa kubonakala hhayi emehlweni ingane sina kuphela, kodwa kubalulekile. Nengane sengathi abanye uthando yena ngeke esaba khona, Ngakho-ke, uma ubuhlobo akusho tente (ikakhulukazi uma nzima ukukhashelwa umlingani), akukho ukuphila okwengeziwe ilahlekelwa zonke incazelo.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, phakathi nenkathi yokuqhuma kobusha kukhona kumiswa ubuntu futhi isikhundla emphakathini, okusalayo for a lifetime. Kukithi kwenkathi yenguquko, kuhlanganise kusukela maqondana umzali zonke izinguquko kuzoncika kanjani lonke isiphetho ndoda: ukuba abe ngumholi noma ingane izohlala ayengumuntu ofana nathi.

Uma uqhathanisa obumbi yobusha nazo zonke ezinye izinkinga, avame zikhula kancane futhi olwengeziwe. Ingane kancane kancane iba ihlongandlebe futhi abadelelayo. Yingakho abazali nzima esikhundleni umugqa ngale lapho indodana noma indodakazi ka elalelayo iba ongalawuleki. Uphawu lokuqala - ukubonakaliswa uzibuse. Lesi simo esiyingqayizivele sibangelwa kungaba ukuzibonakalisa ngezindlela ezihlukene kakhulu. Ingane ayikwazi khona izifundo esikoleni, hhayi yokulala ekhaya, uzivalele ekamelweni layo futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho Uhlanganyela izinhlangano imfihlo namahlelo. Zonke iseluleko abadala izincomo zabo akudingeki ukuba ukubaluleka kancane. Inkinga kuhambisana intsha esikhulakhulile ukuzwela ngokweqile. Ingane ihlangabezana okuningi mayelana nezinguquko emzimbeni yabo (ngokuhlaziya yezwi kubafana izimpawu zokuthomba futhi inkinga isikhumba nezinwele).

Yingakho indlela isanqante nenduku kumane kungamukeleki. Impudence futhi luhlaza - Kutama uxhumane ne abadala esingalindelekile yasekuqaleni okungenakho ukungaqiniseki ukudideka, futhi singekho kubi njengoba kungase kubonakale efika kuqala. Konke zimbi kakhulu, futhi uma ingane akafuni ukukhuluma. Ngisho sengqondo esingaqondile - lokhu unguZiqu-ukuxhumana kanye uzame ukwazisa ngezinkinga zabo. Ungesabi futhi ukhathazeke, crisis yobusha - a engokwemvelo, edlala indima ebalulekile ekwakhekeni ubuntu. Bonke abazali kufanele sizimisele udlula kulesi sikhathi sokuphila kwengane, futhi ne okungenani ukulahlekelwa kungenzeka. The main isikhali - ukubekezela, ukuqonda futhi akukho izindlela sibhekwe, naphezu ukuthukwa nezinhlungu okungase kubangele ukuziphatha ukuqubuka ingane.

Uma ubheka kusukela ohlangothini Psychology, kamuva waba ibhobhodleyana okuningi uyesaba isimo sabo kunabazali. Phela, engawuqondi kwenzakalani naye. Abazali kufanele umsebenzi obalulekile: zingabantu abanikazi emnandi kakhulu, kumelwe ulungiselele futhi enza konke okusemandleni akhe ukuze crisis ingane kwakuyisiqalo ukuphila okujabulisayo futhi bayaphumelela esikhathini esizayo. Lungiselela ezidingekayo kusukela ekuzalweni. Kusukela ezinsukwini zokuqala zokuphila okufanele ukwakha ubuhlobo obusekelwe othandweni, ithemba nokuqonda mutual. Kumele ube hhayi kuphela umnakekeli kodwa futhi umngane ohlale ekulungele ukusiza bese uphakamisa. Kusukela ezinsukwini zokuqala enkulisa usuku lokugcina esikoleni kufanele ukukhuluma ingane. Khumula umsebenzi kanye nemisebenzi, ngoba uma iphuzu yokhiye ezingabanjwanga ke kumele wenze lutho. Kumele abahileleke ngokuqondile impilo yengane. Ukwaziswa futhi ukwazi yonke kubangane bakhe. Ukuze ufunde mayelana nezinkinga futhi kudabukisa, ufunde mayelana futhi ujabulele nokunqoba. Akufanele aphathe intsha njengabantwana, bonisa ukuthi oyibonayo ingane njengoba umuntu azimele ilungelo ukuvikela umbono wabo, kungakhathaliseki okungalungile kangakanani. Nge ushintsho abukhali yokuziphatha akufanele uzame ekhuphukela amathiphu, kungaba kuphela ukwenza okubi. Kufanele uhlole isimo, ukuxhumana nabangani kuphela bese uqhubekela phambili isinyathelo. Landela oyisisekelo umzali - kuhle kwengane, yini kwaba, futhi aphathe bonke ngokuqonda. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ukusilela - isixazululo ezingcono kubo bonke izingxabano. Kungaleso sikhathi kuphela lapho ngeke zonke ezimbi ngakolunye uhlangothi, okuholela tebuholi. Inkinga yobusha efanele kungaba inkathi ukusondelana enkulu nengane. Ungakwazi uqondise zonke izenzo endleleni efanele, kodwa akuzona zonke anqume. Ubuhlobo impumelelo itholakala usizo mutual ku nokuqonda mutual.