Uyini zokukhwabanisa? ithonya nolukhohlisayo

Umbuzo "Uyini zokukhwabanisa?" ungakwazi ngokuvamile uthole impendulo mayelana umtselela losengcondvweni ukuze kuzuzwe izinzuzo ezithile zomuntu siqu. Kulokhu ngokuvamile nomphumela ofanayo kufihliwe.

Kuyini ukuxhaphaza

Izikhundla uhlobo amasu ngokwengqondo, okuhloswe ngalo sokuphoqelela umuntu ukuba izenzo ezithile ephambene nezifiso zakhe. Uma lokhu ithonya kungesobala kepha ezifihliwe. Ingqikithi zokukhwabanisa ukuthi ubuntu, okuyinto ngaphansi kwengcindezi ngokwayo kumelwe ufuna ukwenza izenzo ezithile, ngisho noma akusiyo inzuzo.

Ngu ukuxhaphaza abantu baphendukela lapho besaba ukwehluleka noma ngamabomu ukukholelwa lo mphumela obuhlungu we ibhizinisi elithile. Mhlawumbe ngisho labo bantu ababephikisa abaqondi ngokuphelele ukuthi enjalo zokukhwabanisa kuzothi enganakile, ngokuvamile zisebenzisa lesi senzo ngokwengqondo ukuze bafinyelele imigomo yabo. Ngisho kwaneliswa nezifiso zezingane kungaba ngandlela-thile ukuthi lalotshwa imiphumela zokukhwabanisa.

Kungani abantu baphendukela ke

Ukuze enze zokukhwabanisa ethize ukuba isizathu, okungaba noma bayazi subliminal. Ngakho-ke, amasu anjengebalazwe uphika bantu abalandelayo:

• sengozini nzima noma nesimo esasinzima ngempela (kulesi simo umuntu uqala ukusebenzisa ukuze aphazamisa nezinye lingavumi);
• ungabazane ohlelweni amakhono abo siqu ngokuvamile kuholela yokuthi umuntu ngokungazi uzama ukuthonya abanye;
• yengcindezi yomphakathi, kanye eyeqisayo ehlotshaniswa ne isikhundla esithile, ngokuvamile bakhuthaza yokwesatshiswa, injongo okuyinto ukufihla noma izaba ngezenzo ezithile;
• Umbono ophambene ngomuntu othile, kanye nesifiso sokuziphindiselela ngokuvamile kubangela imiphumela ngokwengqondo;
• zokukhwabanisa ngokuvamile iba ngisho nokungathembeki ukuze imigomo yobugovu.

Indlela iwukudambisa zokukhwabanisa

Njengoba asebenzelana ngayo yokuthi zokukhwabanisa enjalo, kubalulekile ukuba bajwayelane nezindlela zayo neutralization. Ngakho, ukugwema umtselela losengcondvweni, kutuswa ukusebenzisa amathekhiniki alandelako:

• siqaphela zokukhwabanisa, kubalulekile ukuba ngokushesha futhi ngokukhululekile amemezele uhlelo inadmissibility ka senza okufanayo kuwe (uma kubangelwa yokuzingabaza, impendulo enjalo abukhali ngokushesha adunyazwe isitha);
• Ukudalula izinhloso manipulator edalula kwabanye (ukudalulwa amaqiniso ungakhululekile uzokwenza umthelela nokungabi akulungile);
• Uma ucindezelwa ucingo abaphikisi sika-ke ingxoxo frank ukucacisa isimo bese anqume izisusa (ukusilela ingatholakala ngokuhamba ingxoxo);
• ngempela indlela ephumelelayo ekulweni manipulation a umhlaziyi womuntu esizama bakucindezele;
• uma uqonda ukuthi zezombusazwe kungasizi ukuqeda ukucindezela kuthabathela ecaleni, ekwazi ukumelana Umphikisi, ukuze ujoyine naye ekubhekaneni ngeziqu evulekile (ukuphikiswa landela him aphume kukhwelana);
• Zama ukuphendula manipulation zokukhwabanisa.

Wazi kanjani ukuthi ukusetshenziswa?

Izikhundla (yokuchayeka) bangase babe nezinkolelo ezihlukahlukene ukubonakaliswa, futhi ukuze baqede ngempumelelo ke, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi alibone. Ngakho, kuhambisana kwalezi zimo:

• umuzwa ukungakhululeki ngokwengqondo kanye nokuntuleka nengqondo kulandzelana kwetigameko;
• ukungqubuzana phakathi ngamazwi nangezenzo ithumela abaphikisi;
• amaphaphu ingxoxo;
• isimo swings engalweni, kuncike ekutheni kungenzeka ukufezekisa oyifunayo;
• isimo sokungathembani phakathi interlocutors.

amaqhinga alula

Ukunikeza i-manipulations elandelayo elula:

• azame bafinyelele imigomo yabo siqu, ngokusekelwe kokuthukuthela noma ukuzizwa unecala (kulesi simo, abaphikisi uqala bazizwe bebophekile ukuba ajabulise "isisulu");
• umtselela losengcondvweni uthule ekungizo khombisa isifo sokuphazamiseka kwengqondo badonsele ukunakekela imizwa yabo;
• manipulation intukuthelo futhi eminye imizwa edikibalisayo kusekelwe eqinisweni ukuthi blackmailer sibonisa esimweni saso ongenakulinganisela ezingokwengqondo, bezama ukuthola ukuthi izenzo ezithile noma ukuqashelwa;
• ingcindezi umuzwa wokuthi uyamthanda yakhelwe ukuvala abantu (ngokuvamile ezimweni ezinjalo zenzeka emikhayeni noma imibhangqwana lapho ngenye inhlangano speculates sengqondo esihle, ezama ukufeza imigomo yobugovu);
• nesithembiso nendawo yonke njengemisebenzi interlocutor ithemba indlela lalivamile esetshenziswa ukuze avuse umuntu esenzweni noma isabelo;
• kuyize zokukhwabanisa kusho ezikhandla ingcindezi ngokukhombisa isimo okusezingeni eliphezulu;
• ukubhuqa ukuklolodelwa angaba knock umuntu aphume eyodwa, okwenza kube pliable ngaphezulu ngokuya ukuphathwa.

manipulations eziyinkimbinkimbi

izindlela eyindida zokukhwabanisa kungenziwa bachazwa futhi ngalendlela:

• le ndlela njengoba shift of ukugcizelela, kaningi ezitholakala abezindaba (izindaba Kungashiwo okufanayo ethulwa kakhulu ehlukile uma ukugcizelela amaqiniso athile);
• amagama athile noma izimo ezingabangela umuntu eziningi imizwelo ukuthi kwenza kube lula ukuba bangasizakali inqubo kubo;
• ukunikeza umuntu kokufaka izenzo ezithile, lokho akusho ukuthi ukukhuluma ngalokhu ngakwesokudla (salokhu kusebenza ezinengqondo buviyoviyo interrogative noma ifomu isiphakamiso);
• becindezelwa ngokwengqondo, kanye edlala ngayo nasemizwelweni enamandla ukuze senze izenzo zabo okungekho emthethweni zincane esizindeni sabo;
• uma manipulator kungekho tiphakamiso leticacile yokuziphatha nezimfuneko, uqala ukuba abonise icala nolaka, bezama ukuthola kude ingxoxo eyakhayo;
• impikiswano ukufuduka indlela itholakala lokuthi ukuthi akuzange kudingeke ukungqubuzana okwanele obukholisayo ekusekeleni agumenti, lesosikhathi lendoda iqala ngenkuthalo ukumgxeka;
• ukudida abaphikisi, le manipulator Ungagcwalisa ekusakazweni kwakhe yonke imibuzo sinombono kamuva bammangalele ukuntula ukuqonda futhi zokungazimiseli ukunikeza impendulo eningiliziwe.

Njengoba kwenzeka

Algorithm lokuxhaphaza ukwazi komphakathi kusho ukudlula izigaba eziningana ngokulandelana:

• ukudweba portrait ngokwengqondo umuntu othile noma iqembu ngenjongo sokunquma izinkolelo ayisisekelo nezindinganiso;
• ngokuletha isimo ezihlongozwayo ngokuhambisana Isimo samanje emphakathini by ukuchayeka ngokusebenzisa imithombo yezindaba nezinye izindlela;
• ukwethulwa izindlela ezithile ezokwenza lula itjhuguluko isimo esisha;
• isilawuli alandelayo isimo ukuze kuvinjelwe ukuphambuka kusuka Yiqiniso iqoqo ukuthuthukiswa.

izinhlobo zokukhwabanisa

Ukuzama ukuba afinyelele imigomo ethile, umuntu angasebenzisa zonke izinhlobo izindlela kwethonya ngokwengqondo. Kule ndaba, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi yini izenzo isinqumo ukwaba:

• zokukhwabanisa ngamabomu okunenjongo futhi kuhlelwe (indoda uyazibona algorithm yezenzo zabo ukufeza umphumela oyifunayo);
• zokukhwabanisa equlekile akuvunyelwe ngaphansi ukulungela inhloso ethize kanye ngabanye uwukakabi uhlelo olucacile futhi isethulo yezindlela kwethonya isitha sakho (simo ngokuvamile kunezinxushunxushu eba ngaphansi kwethonya imizwelo enamandla);
• ngokolimi (noma kuchumana) kusekelwe manipulation amakhono zeningi lomuntu oyedwa, ngawo efuna avuse umuntu ngezenzo ezithile;
• zokukhwabanisa kokuziphatha esekelwe ukugcwaliseka izinhlobo ezithile ukuziphatha nezenzo angadingi amasu ngamazwi ezengeziwe.

zokukhwabanisa izindlela

Ukuze wenze manipulation, ngamunye angase asebenzise izindlela ezilandelayo:

• tekuchumana ngenjongo abaphikisi izinkolelo futhi ushayele ku isinyathelo esifanele;
• ingxenye ngokomzwelo, okuhloswe ngalo obonisa imizwa yabo noma inselele nalezo interlocutor;
• banxuse wokuphuthuma sidilize abaphikisi ibhalansi futhi kudinga esheshayo isinqumo izinqumo ngokuphamazela;
• ukuphindaphindwa njalo izinsolo ezifanayo ingcindezi interlocutor;
• ukwabiwa ingxenye ethile umongo jikelele lomcimbi ukwethula isimo enenzuzo kakhulu ingxenye;
• ukukhuluma mayelana nalolo daba ngaphandle kokukhuluma simongcondvo eziningi izimo ezibalulekile ezingase ukucacisa isimo sangempela;
• nokucindezela umbono okuphambene ngu kokuqagela;
• zisebenzisa yokucabanga stereotypical ukuze bakwazi ukuqinisekisa abanye ngokunemba;
• umqondo kwemibono njengoba ulwazi umgomo futhi yaqinisekiswa emithonjeni enokwethenjelwa;
• ingcindezi at kuye usebenzisa igunya lakhe, noma isimo okusezingeni eliphezulu nomphakathi.

sengozini

Ngokuvamile amenable yokwesatshiswa le ubuntu ezilandelayo:

• abafisa ukujabulisa kukho konke emhlabeni futhi uthole ukwamukelwa ngokugcwele;
• abantu besaba ukuxabana, inhlamba;
• umuntu ongaphansi futhi sokungazazi (kuye kuphela ngakolunye abazizwa ukududuzwa);
• abantu kalula abakholelwa ukwethembeka nobuqotho babanye;
• altruists, ngubani bakubheka njengomthwalo wabo bonke emhlabeni ukusiza;
• abantu engacabanganga abenza izinqumo ezibalulekile ngaphansi kwethonya imizwelo ngokushesha;
• intsha angakawamukeli kwakhiwa isikhundla sawo ekuphileni, futhi befuna igunya;
• izintokazi olulodwa abafuna ukuxhumana kanye ubungani;
• abantu okungavikelekile ngubani cabanga imicabango yabantu ezinye ezifanelekayo futhi enengqondo okungelona olwakhe.

isiphetho

Izikhundla abantu - kuba indlela esiqine umuzwa ocindezelayo ngokwengqondo (ngokuvamile kufihlwe), okuhilela nokuphoqa interlocutor ukuba noma yisiphi isenzo (okokugcina iwukuba siqiniseke ukuthi afuna). imihlola Okufanayo kungenzeka kokubili uyaqaphela futhi ngokungazi. Kulokhu, impumelelo zokukhwabanisa incike kumuntu futhi izici ezingokwengqondo yomuntu, owaqondisa umthelela.

Izizathu zokukhwabanisa angase alale ngokwesimo umuntu noma yizimo zangaphandle. Ngakho, ngokuvamile yakhetha ke kukhona abantu netwetwe esabe zeziyaluyalu futhi uzama ukuba sizigweme. Futhi, lolu hlobo izindlela bangabantu okungavikelekile abamane ungayiboni yimuphi omunye indlela yokufinyelela imigomo yabo. Izikhundla kungabangela ukungezwani phakathi kwabantu, kanye indlela yokuthola inzuzo engafanele.

Ukuze sikwazi ukumelana zokukhwabanisa, kumelwe uthole amandla ukunikeza impendulo enemikhuba sikhiphe isexwayiso mayelana inadmissibility yezenzo ezinjalo. Omunye ukuqonda ukuthi izinhloso zakhe kuyadalulwa. Kungcono uma leli qiniso saba undabamlonyeni ukuze uvimbele manipulator izindlela ezengeziwe ukuthatha isinyathelo.