Izimpendulo ezimbalwa kumbuzo obuhlungu wokuthi kungani ngingenabo abangane

Ukuthi umuntu uyisimo sezenhlalakahle, akudingekile ukufakazela. Ngisho nesethuli esiphelele kakhulu ngezinye izikhathi sifuna ukukhuluma, uma singahlali enkampanini yomuntu, ukuzwa ukusekelwa komuntu, noma okungenani ukuqonda nozwela ngezinqubo ezenzeka emphefumulweni. Kodwa-ke, abantu abaningi ngokwengeziwe eminyakeni yethu yobuchwepheshe bahlushwa yedwa futhi bazibuza: kungani ngingenabo abangane? Asihlali esiqhingini esingahlali, sizungezile-sigcwele abantu, kodwa sibize umngane womuntu ... Ake sizibuze kuqala: ngubani lo "umngane" nokuthi uhluke kanjani kumane nje "umngane" no "umngane".

Cishe, ngamunye wethu okungenani kanye empilweni yami, kodwa waba nolwazi lobuhlobo (uphumelele noma aluphumelelanga ngenye indaba). Khumbula, yini eyahlukanisa lo muntu kwabanye? Okokuqala, nonke nifuna ukuxhumana. Uhlale unento yokutshela. Futhi awungesabi ukwabelana nalomuntu imicabango yakho eyimfihlakalo kakhulu, akazange wesabe ukuthi uzohlekwa usulu noma uchithe udumo. Okwesibili, nawe washukunyiswa yisifiso sokusiza umngane wakho: uzwela kakhulu ngazo zonke izinselele nezinjabulo zakhe. Futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, wazi ukuthi kunjalo, okungukuthi, azange "azame" futhi afundise. Wanikeza iseluleko, kodwa akazange ambeke umbono wakho, njengoba nje kwakungenxa yakhe iseluleko esinomusa kanye namathiphu, kunokuba umyalo kanye nezimfundiso zokuziphatha, kulindelwe kuye. Manje sekuyisikhathi sokuqhubekela phambili kumbuzo wokuthi kungani umuntu enabangane abaningi, futhi anginabo abangane bangempela?

Kuwubuwula ukuzitshela ukuthi asinalo "isitho" esinomusa. Kuyinto engenangqondo ukugxeka abanye ukuthi ngokungafani bayadlula ngawe futhi abafuni ukubona ukuthi ungumuntu onjani omuhle. Kodwa nokho, impendulo yombuzo wokuthi kungani ngingenabo abangane ikhona ekubonaneni kokuxhumana phakathi kwakho nomphakathi oseduze. Umuntu onabangani abangu-100 akesabi ukuziveza kwabanye abantu. Ngalo mqondo, singasho ukuthi ubungane ibhizinisi eliyingozi kakhulu. Kodwa, njengoba bethi, ngubani ongabheki izingozi, akekho ozophuza i-champagne.

Ngikholelwa, kunabantu abasembuthanweni wakho obathandayo. Kuphela, mhlawumbe, bambalwa phakathi kwabo abanenkani futhi abanesineke ukuze bakhuthazelele "ukuchotshozwa kwe-hedgehog eyinqaba."

Mhlawumbe ukungaboni kahle kwakho kunezizathu zayo: ukukhashelwa kwabangaphambili okuthiwa abangani kungabangela ukwethembeka komuntu wonke. Kodwa-ke, uma othile ekukhaphela, lokhu akusho ukuthi omunye umuntu uzokwenza okufanayo, futhi ukuhlubuka akuyona isizathu sokuthi: "Anginaso abangane." Uma ungenisa, uhlupheka kancane kunesizungu, kodwa umhlaba wakho wangaphakathi ngeke uhlupheke uma uvumela omunye umuntu. Qala ibhulogi bese ubhala phansi okuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kanye nemicabango ethakazelisayo - ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uzoba "nabangane" abanjani ngubani - owaziyo? - bangaba abangane bangempela empilweni yangempela.

"Othandayo-siyayithanda" - uhlabelelwa engoma edumile. Impendulo yombuzo wokuthi kungani ngingenabo abangane ivame ukufihla ukungathandi noma ukungakwazi ukuthanda. Ufuna ukwabelana ngemizwa yakho, usitshele ngobunzima, kodwa kuyadambisa kakhulu ukulalela izindaba zomuntu mayelana nezilonda nokuhlukunyezwa komndeni kwabantu abangaziwa kakhulu? Zama ukuphatha abantu hhayi njengendlela yokuthulula umphefumulo wakho siqu, kodwa ngokuqondene nomunye umhlaba, ongahloliswanga futhi othakazelisayo.

Ake sithi unenkinga ehluke ngokuphelele: uthanda kakhulu ukungena empilweni yomunye umuntu, uthanda ukulalela izindaba ngabanye abantu futhi ubeke amazwana ngomuntu owenze ngendlela efanele futhi ongalungile. Kuzo zonke izinhlalakahle zakho futhi ufisa ukunikeza abanye iseluleko esihlakaniphile (ngoba uyazi impilo kanjalo!), Maduzane uqala ukuzizwa uphumule uzungeze futhi uzibuze ukuthi uzibuze: kungani ngingenabo abangane? Ubungane busekelwe ekuhlonipheni omunye njengomuntu. Nika iseluleko hhayi ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa kuphela lapho abantu bebabuza. Ungafundisi, ungafaki ukuziphatha, futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungaphathi kanjani abantu.