Ukuziphatha kwangaphandle, ukuziphatha kwangaphandle okunemibandela, ukuhlobisa

I-connoisseur ye-psychology yabantu, i-Goethe enobungqingili emgqeni owodwa ithola indlela ehambisana nezimiso zokuziphatha kwangaphandle: "Abantu abaziphatha kabi kakhulu nabangcolile kule planethi babonakala behloniphekile ukuthi manje bangakwazi ukunyatheliswa emakhadini kaKhisimusi." Le yiyo yonke iGoethe, kodwa lokhu kuchaza ngokuphelele isidingo se-gloss yangaphandle - ukumboza ubumnene bezinto ezingathandekayo zomphefumulo.

Kuyini ukuziphatha okuyiqiniso nokuhle?

Kodwa ngaphambi kokuqeda, ukuhlaziya ukuziphatha komuntu, sizokwazi ukuthi yikuphi ukuhlonipha, njengoba kunjalo. Uqondisa ngokuthi "Ungaba kanjani umfana omuhle" kusukela ngesikhathi sika-Alexander I eshicilelwe okuningi. Okubalulekile kuphela "Imithetho yokuhlonipha nokuhlonipha", eyanyatheliswa ngo-1819 kuma-albhamu wezingane ezihloniphekile.

Igama elithi "ukuhlobisa" lalingasetshenzisiwe, kepha incazelo yalo yayiqondakala futhi ihambisana nomqondo wobuncwane. Yanikele ekulondolozeni ubuzwe emphakathini ophakeme, okuthiwa "uGeorge" nabaphangi, ababegqoka izintelezi zegolide ekubukeni izinketho futhi bahlelwe emanzini. Ukuhlukanisa owesifazane weqiniso noma induna ye-penguin emaphakathini e-peacock kuphela kungaba nokuziphatha emphakathini. Ngisho nokugcinwa kokufaneleka kwangaphandle okunemibandela, ukungabi namuntu okwedlulele noma ubunikazi be-lackey wabantu abathintekayo noma inzalo engafundile kusukela "eqenjini eliphakathi" lawayeka.

Umlobi waseJalimane wekhulu le-XIX ngasekugcineni, i- Lion Feuchtwanger ngalesi sihloko wabonisa ukuthi: "Kuzo zonke izinto ezimbi ukuhlonishwa yiyona eyonakalisa kakhulu." Ngempela, ukugcinwa kwesitayela sokuphila esingagcini isimo sangaphakathi, umthwalo ngezinye izikhathi awuhambisani. UKant ngokungavumelani uyavumelana nalesi siphakamiso, ebona ukuthi konke ukuhlonipha akuyona into nje ukubonakala okuhle.

Ukushiya isilawuli esincibilikisiwe, sichaza ukuthi ukuhlonipha okuyinhloko akuyona ngisho nezwe eliphakeme, nakuba kwakungcono kakhulu ukuhlala lapho. Akuyona nje into ejwayelekile. Ukubukeka okwesabekayo, ngokulandelana, kungabonakalisa kunoma imuphi umphakathi.

Imithetho yokuhlonipha kwezigwebo zomphakathi ophakeme

Kokubili ukuhlonishwa kwangaphakathi nokungaphakathi kudinga ukusebenzisa imizamo ethile nokulawula njalo. Awuphenduli emoyeni wezingxabano, kodwa, ngokuphambene nalokho, abiza ukulinganisela kwezifiso, ukuthobeka kwezahlulelo kanye nokuqapha ezinjabulo.

Ngokwekuqonda okuhle, umuntu ohloniphekile kufanele abe nezimfanelo ezilandelayo:

• Isahlulelo esinengqondo esilawula imicabango kanye namagama kuphela, kodwa izenzo kanye nokuphendula ezenzweni zabanye abantu;
• Ukuziphatha okuphakeme nokuziphatha okuqotho;
• Ukuhambisana nezindinganiso zokuziphatha kanye nomphakathi lapho utholakala khona;
• Isimo sengqondo sokubekezela kwabanye, ikhono lokungaqapheli iphutha lomunye umuntu, uma lingalona;
• Ukulondolozwa kwesithunzi somuntu kunoma yisiphi isimo;
• Isifiso sokusiza abanye ngaphandle kokucela isinxephezelo ngenxa yokuphazamiseka komuntu siqu, ukuchitha noma ukukwazi ukuzidela.

I-Goethe efanayo, ephikisana ngokuziphatha kombuzo, ngokucacile ukuthi ukuhlobisa kwangaphandle kumele kulungiswe.

Imithetho yokuhlonipha e-Encyclopedia of Life

"I-Encyclopedia of Life" yohlelo luka-1992 ayifaki okuningi kulokhu okungenhla, kodwa masijwayele imithetho yemfanelo, evezwe yizizwe zakithi maduzane. Ngakho, ukugcina ukuhlonipha, ke:

• Hlala ngokuhambisana nesimo sabo;
• Phatha abanye ngenhlonipho;
• Ungabonisi ukuzethemba lapho ukhuluma nabantu abanesizathu sokudabuka;
• Ungabonisi ukubukeka okuziqhenya;
• Ungaphazamisi engxoxweni i-interlocutor, khona-ke - ukungabonisi ngokwayo umthombo wezwi;
• Ungamphoqeleli muntu ukuthi amukele iphuzu lakho lokubuka, kodwa ume ukuze uthole ubulungisa ngokungahambisani nabanye;
• Ungalihlezi inselele enkampanini yabanye abantu;
• Ungabeki umuntu wakho esihlokweni;
• Ungenzi ukubonakala okuphoqelekile phakathi kwengxoxo, thola amandla ukuxolisa futhi ushiye i-interlocutor uma udinga ukuba ungabikho.

Isela elihloniphekile

I-Sonka i-Golden Pen iyaziwa yi-master of adventure, kanti izisulu ezihluphekile kuze kube yilapho umzuzu wokugcina ucabanga ukuthi zisebenzelana nenkosikazi ephakeme kakhulu. Owesifazane wayefunde kakhulu, wafunda izilimi ezinhlanu kalula futhi waba nombukiso omuhle wesintombazane engenacala.

Zonke izingxenye ezinkulu eziphumelele ezenziwa nguSonya zagcina ikhono elingavamile lalasela elimangalisayo ukuze lidlale i-decorum yangaphandle, isuka emigodini yokuhlonipha ngomusa onjalo njengokungathi yindaba yezimo ezincane "zengozi".

Uma sikhuluma ngo-Sophia Bluewstein njengesibonelo , singakhuluma, kunalokho, ngesimo se-plasticity engavamile. Ukuthola ubuciko bokubheka ukuhlonipha, owesifazane oyisibonelo esihle, lo mdlali ophila empilweni ungenye futhi yokuqinisekisa amazwi kaCharles Colton: "Abesifazane abavami njalo njengoba amadoda ephula imithetho yokuhlonipha, kepha uma bephutha, baqhubeka kakhulu kule ndaba" .

Indlela yokuqonda ukuhlonipha eJalimane

IJalimane elihloniphekile aliphikisi ukuphila komuntu nomphakathi, yingakho kungokwesiko ukuba baxoxe ngomndeni emsebenzini, nemibandela yokusebenza emndenini womndeni. Ngeke uzwe kusuka kwisiJalimane esaziwayo esibhekisela ku "wena" ngisho nangemva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa zokukhulumisana okuhle, ngoba ngisho nokushintsha kwesigaba sokukhulumisana phakathi kwalaba bantu abanengqondo kuphuza futhi ngokufanele isinqumo esinokulinganisela.

Omunye akufanele awele esicupheni sokuhlonipha nokuhlonipha, buza isiJalimane ngezindaba zakhe futhi ubonise isithakazelo esiqotho kulo mbuzo, ngoba ngaphandle kwalokho usongelwa ingxoxo ende futhi ephelele mayelana nazo zonke izinkinga, izindaba, izifo eziwumshayabhuqe kanye nakho konke okungaqondile noma Uthinte ngqo le-Herr.

AmaJalimane ngokumangazayo azwela ukuhlonipha okubonakalayo kwangaphandle nokukhohlisa okuhambisanayo, ngakho uma ungafuni ukuba ngaphezu komngane womunye wabo, ungazami ukuzama isithombe somunye umuntu.

I-Decency ngesiNgisi

I-Decency e-England - lokhu akuwona ukubonakaliswa kwangaphandle hhayi umphumela wokuzithiba, lokhu kuyikhwalithi yomlingisi, okwakhiwa kusukela ebuntwaneni. I-diplomacy yikhwalithi esemqoka yesiNgisi, ngakho-ke ungakhuluma naye ihora bese uphuma engxoxweni enembile kakhulu mayelana nesimo sezulu, mayelana nezifundo ezishintshaniswayo, kodwa hhayi ngalokho ofuna ukukwazi.

Ngokuvamile, kwingxoxo eqhutshwa kahle, umNgisi ohloniphekile uzokukhuluma ngesimo sezulu izikhathi eziyishumi phakathi kwengxoxo. Lokhu kungase kubonakale kungavamile, kodwa ngenxa yalesi sihloko esihlukile ukuthi iBrithani efundele kahle ngeke ikuvumele ukuba uzizwe ume kancane noma ulahlekelwe ekufuneni isihloko.

E-England, hhayi ekuxhumaneni ngokomzimba ngenkathi kukhulumisana - ukusho ngesandla, ukubambelela kwesandla se-interlocutor kuye, kubhekwa ukuphakama kokungafaneleki. Kubuye kungenangqondo ekuxoxweni neBrithani yangempela ukuthi ifune kuye, uma kusobala ukuthi uzama ukuyigwema.